When people learn I study astrology they almost always ask; I am a Leo I heard I get along great with Gemini or they challenge astrology and claim to be an Aries that has always been in a serious relationship with Capricorn (which is a mismatch). Most people are only familiar with Sun sign Astrology and what they have read on some very vague website.
Generally speaking fire signs and air signs bode well together. On a very mundane level fire signs Aries, Leo and Sagittarius get along well with air signs, Gemini, Libra and Aquarius.
The reason being air needs fire to breathe and fire needs air to expand. The sun represents the ego so on a fundamental level these 2 contribute to one another; they have a basic understanding of one another’s needs. For instance Aries is a Cardinal fire sign an initiator so they will for the most part get along with Gemini, a mutable air sign that lacks focus. They help one another out. Gemini shows flexibility where as Aries teaches direct action.
Similarly the water signs: Cancer, Scorpio and Pisces get along well with earth signs Taurus, Virgo and Capricorn in theory water nourishes earth and earth needs water to grow for instance Pisces is a mutable water sign that is represented by 2 fish swimming in circles, they could benefit from a grounded earth sign such as Taurus or Capricorn that can provide stability and earth can learn the value of emotions and non tangible goods from a water sign, such as Pisces. Generally speaking water and earth can work together and provide one another with what the other lacks. Capricorn is the sign of work and reputation, a Capricorn can learn from Cancer (their opposite sign) the value of home and nurturing. Whereas earth and air signs do not co mingle or cohabit, nor do water and fire. Think of it the sky (air) meets the land (earth) but they are not interwoven and similarly water puts out fire instead of helping it grow.
But when you dig a little deeper and look at the entire natal chart a person is more than just a sun sign. This question first appeared to me when as a Cancer I realized I have never loved A. another water sign or B. dated an earth sign. Anyone that has meant anything to me and the feeling was mutual have been Leo or Aquarius. It is essential to look at the entire chart when asking what sign am I most compatible with.
For instance my rising sign is in Aquarius this makes the sign on my 7th house cusp (the house of marriage) Leo. This in itself dictates I like a domineering, showy partner that enjoys being the center of attention. Further more you look at the ruler of the 7th house for me that is Leo, Leo is ruled by the Sun and the Sun is placed in my 5th house of love affairs. I require true love, strong romanticism is indicated where as someone with Leo on the 7th house cusp but the sun is placed in the 6th house is very different that is the house of daily habits, a person with that placement seeks someone they can work with or that merely fits in with their daily activities. Next we look at my moon (feelings) my moon is in the fire sign Aries, aggressive, direct, I would fit well with an Air sign, perhaps a Libra that can teach me the value of fairness and balance in partnership instead of the impulsive self oriented feeling of an Aries moon. Next Venus planet of love is placed in Gemini an intellectual restless sign that require love to be light and never dull where as my planet of sex drive (Mars) is the only earth planet I possess in Taurus, a complete contradiction to the planet Venus. In sex I want someone who has Taurian type traits, slow, sensual and romantic where as my Venus seeks love on the go, always trying new activities and lots of conversation. I have 7 planets in total in air and fire signs. This is what has led me to choosing Leo (fire) and Aquarius (air) for partnerships and Love.
In short When Considering compatibility
- look at your rising sign, this is how you appear to the outside world
- look at the sign on the cusp of your 7th house of marriage, this indicates qualities you look for in a mate
- look at the sign the moon is placed in for emotional responses
- look at your venus sign for how you give and receive love
- and lastly look at your mars placement for what attracts you sexually