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A Neptune Affair; you are the dream and I am the dreamer

Published October 22, 2016 by starsmoonandsun

In another life he could have been mine I suppose all of his planets fall in my 7^th house and 3 of mine fall in his. Perhaps that is why I had to know him. The 7^th house is what you seek in a mate and a part of me felt like wow there you are. This vague I am so comfortable to be here with you.

I see him through this film this kaleidoscope of colors. I think he is beautiful

I have had this song on repeat for a minute

I was reading a book that said our combined energies is a “gossamer fabric” very beautiful and delicate, light and ethereal.

Neptune is the planet of dreams, addictions, escapism; it rules what you don’t see it over sees fantasies and all things magical. Neptune eludes, deludes and is evasive. Now you see him now you don’t. My Tarot Reader who knows nothing is particular about my situation pulled out the Magician card a few weeks ago and told me “don’t let him dazzle you with bullshit”. Neptune themed relationships often involve someone with addiction issues, someone looking to be saved and most definitely someone looking to escape.

Sometimes I think Neptune relationships have a difficult time surviving or even getting off the ground in this cold Saturn ruled world where buying homes and laying down foundations take precedence over dreams and connections on a soul level. Neptune contacts after all are otherworldly and not of this plane. The keynotes are telepathy, dreaming of one another, and they are marked by an evasive you just can’t put your finger on them quality.

I have Neptune conjunct my Midheaven, my Neptune is a part of my grand fire trine with moon and Saturn too much reality erodes me, I much prefer the dream the smugness of it all; the gossamer fabric.

Perhaps for someone more cerebral this would never do.

I feel him on the perimeter of me, so close but yet so far. The other day I yelled why are you hiding from me?! And laughed and thought what a Neptunian thing to say, hiding in plain sight. He appears and disappears like a rabbit in a hat. I told him I hope I haunt him forever; I have no doubt I will. One night I will seep into his subconscious while he is on his 7th dream.

My Neptune squares his Moon, Mercury and Mars; His Neptune opposes my Venus and Mars.

A lot of talk goes on about who is deceiving who in these connections, perhaps it is neither. Maybe we just deceive ourselves.

I am not sure how he experiences me, he is very clear if not heavy handed in speech and I wonder with my Neptune squaring his Mercury do I bring him some sort of mental confusion. I generally do not talk a lot, not an excess of words. I believe this aspect is said that the Neptune values the intellectual accomplishments of the mercury person but I also feel the Neptune person (moi) is here to teach the mercury person something about spirituality. A lesson I am going to presume the mercury person doesn’t want to learn because these two planets meet by square. A square is an obstacle, it shows tension.

With the opposition it has a see saw effect; it is often debated who sees who like a dream. His Neptune opposes my Venus and mars and I see him as this magnificent I don’t even have words to describe sort of way, I tell myself that isn’t who he is that is merely my perception but no matter I see him through that sparkling veneer. It can also be and I have had it the Neptune person project his ideals onto Venus, I dated someone for a year and we had this aspect 100 years later he will say he never loved anyone like me.

These relationships or connections can be marked by forgiveness and compassion so even if something goes wrong an element of –its ok- will permeate.

Neptune relationships are supposed to be the most heart breaking; the dream doesn’t meet the reality. That’s what is written, it offers the promise of paradise that it can’t quite deliver.

Time has taught me to let things be as they are, I do believe what’s meant for you flows to you effortlessly and lets hope whats meant for me strolls in on a pink puffy cloud

Neptune in Synastry A Perfect Illusion

Published September 28, 2016 by starsmoonandsun

Neptune in synastry is a dream; Neptune rules illusions, deceit, con-artists, drug addicts, the victim and the savior.

Neptune corresponds with several Tarot cards one of them being the 7 of cups.

The 7 of cups looks like it has all these wonderful options all these cups are calling you; enticing you with promises of dream fulfilled. All you ever wanted, all you could ever dream of are right before you.

When you see the 7 of cups in a Tarot reading it foretells that A. everything is not what it seems, B. the person you are inquiring about may have addiction issues or C. (in a romance reading) they may have several options and are playing the field.

I have been thinking about Neptune in synastry lately mostly when I hear Lady Gaga’s New Song “Perfect Illusion”

I don’t need eyes to see
I felt you touchin’ me
High like amphetamine
Maybe you’re just a dream
That’s what it means to crush
Now that I’m wakin’ up
I still feel the blow
But at least now I knowIt wasn’t love, it wasn’t love
It was a perfect illusion (perfect illusion)
Mistaken for love, it wasn’t love
It was a perfect illusion (perfect illusion)

Gaga has a pretty hefty Neptune in her natal chart this is what makes her creative but with Neptune also squaring her sun she has to watch for the tendency to pick up men (sun) that have addiction issues or that she sees through this Neptunian filter.

They say nothing brings greater disappointment in love then heavy Neptune in synastry, the dream perhaps never meets the reality.

(According to Abrhahm Hicks disappointment is taking score too soon. I love that)

Projection is very likely in Neptunian theme relationships, particularly with personal planets opposing Neptune you project your desires, hopes and wishes on to the Neptunian person. But people are people and it is hard for them to live up to ideals. If you place any one person on a pedestal it is only a matter of time before they fall.

It is a lot to live up too; being someone’s dream. I have been called a dream and have viewed others as my dream. It is an impossibility really. Neptune will have you telepathically communicating, walking through portals in between worlds, it feels otherworldly not of this realm and that why perhaps Neptunian theme relationships aren’t meant to last this world is simply too harsh. I don’t think that it is the Neptune person that is always deceiving us perhaps as much as we deceive ourselves. Yearning to escape a world of mundane, drift away on puffy clouds when the cold real world (Saturn) is just too much to take.

Saturn aspecting Venus; This isnt personal its business

Published September 28, 2016 by starsmoonandsun

Lately I have been thinking about love being the antidote for everything & how its important to love people even when they are unlovable. Of coarse from a distance, on a universal level: I see you are a human being made up from the same molecules and stardust as I am so I can love you even you aren’t lovable. I can send you waves of love from the sanctuary of my own space.

I have written extensively about Saturn in regards to love, I would say I write about Saturn and Pluto the most because these are the two energies I am most familiar with. I have Saturn in the 7^th house I have written about this a lot, how those of us with Saturn in the 7^th or on Venus (Saturn opposite, conjunct, square to Venus) struggle with divine time in our love lives, how we attract authoritative partners or we have to be the authority in our relationships, how we have to work so hard when it comes to love, the way we use defense mechanisms to hold people apart from us. We cant take rejection, we can set the bar very high in love, we can meet people at the wrong time, we can meet people that aren’t available and anyone we do meet usually has a heavy karmic debt or element to it.

Where ever Saturn is; life is hard, life is difficult. As a cure to my own Saturn in the 7^th I think to myself if you hurt me I will love you –from a distance any way- I have made a conscious effort to not set the bar so high that people have to climb to some idealized height. When something feels uncomfortable and I wish the whole earth would swallow me whole I will stay and face it. I have decided the next time I find love I will put the work in instead of running for my life because this seems “so hard”. And I will accept that my relationships will never be equal, never on equal footing that someone will always run the show though in all honesty I would rather someone else take charge. If I trust you to lead I will surely follow. Saturn in the 7^th believes in traditional roles, conservative relationships that last. And I do believe in love the kind that captures your soul.

I was thinking about the men I attract that have Venus in hard aspect to Saturn; these arent warm and fuzzy men I suppose. These are the type of men that put work over love, that have blocks to love, the types that might bail if they sense that you may require too much. Some that may take an intimate expression as a sign of being needy. People that have Venus in hard aspect to Saturn are often not comfortable with physical expressions of love, Saturn is the planet of Authority, business, coolness, structure, restriction and aspecting Venus planet of love and leisure they likely have blocks to love. They are not at ease expressing love and affection. They may chose work over love, hide behind their work, keep love at a distance and deep down believe that they are unworthy of great love. They may forgo real love all together believing it is simply too hard or unrealistic.

I must tweet once a week

We have to let it all go, people only love you from their own levels of consciousness

I wanted to caution those of you (and perhaps remind myself) that have met someone with Venus in aspect to Saturn to not take it personally this is their issue. Sometimes we have to leave people to do the fucked up things they do, sometimes we have to recognize that people have blocks and defense mechanisms within them so high and so deeply embedded in their unconscious minds that an lifetime may pass and they will still hold love apart from themselves.

My advice: Don’t take it personal love them any way recognize it is all their loss. They may very well let a lifetime pass them by never knowing what it is like to let someone in close enough to see the texture of their soul In the words of Dr Wayne Dyer

And Nayyirah Waheed

“you’re needy” the air and water sign dilemma

Published September 25, 2016 by starsmoonandsun

I have been called needy before I have been told I require too much attention. I attract mostly air sign men though Libra and Gemini will be the two that most often label me this. Something about Aquarius suns they understand me most they really get me out of all the air signs. Perhaps that is because I have Aquarius rising.

I am not needy and laugh at the utter absurdity of labeling me as such. But generally speaking I dislike labels. I have an Aries Moon this it itself means I do not need anyone (the moon rules your needs and Aries is the sign of self). I am comfortable alone, I am actually quite the loner not particularly social So when someone labels me needy I really want to tell them instead of affixing me with such an insulting adjective why don’t you apologize for having the inability to actually meet my needs. Isn’t that really the case when someone calls you needy? This is their way of confessing they have an inability to give you what you desire

“People only see you from their level of perception”

Water and Air signs do not understand one another on an ego level…on an identity level. Though I am inclined to say water signs appreciate air signs intelligence I love someone intelligent it’s admirable to be well read to know facts and figures on topics I have really no strong interest in. I as a Cancer sun can celebrate the more cerebral parts of a person. After all I do have Venus in Gemini and feel that love can first begin in the mind and nothing is as beautiful as a man with a big vocabulary. But I still possess a water sign sun and nothing could describe me more than the quote below:

But we live in a society where intellect and achievement is valued over intuition and feeling. And here is where water signs are often labeled needy…our contributions aren’t celebrated like air signs and air signs rarely if ever can understand us. I am not sure they even try; sometimes I feel they are quick to dismiss us so easily feeling swept up under a wave of our emotion.

Air signs project qualities onto us without actually communicating or asking what we need or desire they so often think they know everything.

I dated a Gemini man that would always say to me “I don’t want to talk about having children” this man assumed I wanted children he never even bothered to ask me …I surely would have told him I don’t want any.

They see us only through their level of perception and that level of perception is what they think we need/feel/desire without having any real knowing of what we need/feel/desire

Air signs need to be free and have the most difficult times relating to others on an emotional level. If you think of air it’s the breath and they need plenty of room to breathe and roam. Air signs never want to feel held down they have the fear of suffocation…that’s an air sign for you. They filter everything through the mind and love if anything has no place being sorted out through intellect. It must be felt.

Water signs however use intuition to process everything we are formless like air yet we seek someone to house us and be our container. Water signs seek to emotionally connect, we want to merge with you on a soul level we want you to house and be a safe place for our ever changing emotional states.

Water signs use touch and non verbal communication as modes of expression

So while air signs tend to think we are all up there ass we are simply communicating without words how much we like/admire/desire them

Air signs use words as a means of expression.

I do believe this can be sorted out if water signs would allow air signs that room to breathe and if air signs would acknowledge and celebrate that we don’t need them we merely connect through physical and intimate expression.

I think water and air have a great deal to teach one another with air encouraging water to be more rational and detached and with water teaching air to get out of their head and into their heart. Water can teach air that in essence not everything that counts can be counted.

Liz Greene writes in her book “relating”

“The airy type has a problem with feeling…because feelings like everything else which comes under his microscopic eye cannot be classified, structured, analyzed or fitted into the framework”

She goes onto say about the air signs

“His richest relationships will be with the feeling types for they are both his greatest fascination and the reflection of his own inner self”

Greene goes on to mention that water signs have a “problem with reason”

And that “water is magnetically attracted to air and if these two types could cease their endless skirmishing they could learn much from each other about their own unconscious lives”

For a long time now I feel we should just accept people as they are without labeling them one thing or another. The truth of the matter is people cannot be boxed in, we are multifaceted human beings and often the things we love about someone are the same features we devalue overtime. (See the Before Sunrise trilogy) Water signs are drawn to air signs for the way they can be objective and analytical and air signs love water for their creative energy and for having a way of tapping into what the air sign needs on a subconscious level to diminish and weaken these connections with adjectives such as needy (water signs) and shallow (Air signs) is an assault on the very soul of what we love most about one another.

The Astrology of Brad and Angelina’s Divorce

Published September 20, 2016 by starsmoonandsun

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I don’t have a personal opinion on Brad or Angelina as I am not really a fan of either. I do however have an affinity for anyone that adopts children I think it is one of the most selfless acts a person can do.

The Divorce is quite obvious angelina-jolie-divorce-transits

Uranus is squaring Angelina’s Venus in Cancer though it never reached an exact square one would presume a divorce or separation would be eminent . Venus in your natal chart along with your 7th house and the ruler of the 7th house all relate to relationships and partnerships. Uranus is the planet of the unexpected and yes separation it is often prominent in the charts of people that file for divorce (though not always). Angelina Jolie has Venus square Uranus in her natal chart which reflects her several marriages. This is often in the charts of people that marry more then one time. Elizabeth Taylor famous for her multiple marriages has Uranus conjunct Venus Via progression Angelina’s natal Venus square Uranus is almost exact indicating a break up or separation is likely

Uranus rearranges whatever it touches, it shakes things up, breaks things up, awakens us and brings sudden abrupt changes.

It isnt always mentioned but when Uranus transits the 10th house -as is the case with Angelina you see a change in marital status. the 10th house rules your reputation and how you are publicly seen so clearly marriage and divorce change this.

brad-pitt-divorce-transits

Brad Pitt has Venus in Capricorn and today the exact day they have filed for divorce Uranus is squaring his natal Venus so here we have the theme of separation, a break up etc

When a couple has Venus signs in the same mode (Cardinal, Fixed, Mutable) they will be challenged at the same time. It can be very difficult because one person cant be the voice of reason when 2 people are both itching to sever ties.

I have discussed this before with Ben Affleck’s divorce You can read more about this here: PREDICTING DIVORCE AND A LITTLE BEN AND JEN

(Though clearly they seem to be attempting to make it work, Ben Affleck has moon in Scorpio however destructive he may be this can be a sign committed to family in its own right)

Brad Pitt also has Saturn sitting on the Ascendant, the 1st house cusp. When Saturn leaves the 12th house and crosses into the 1st it is a time to get serious about what we want. The 1st house is YOU, its the first house, it rules our first breath, its the start of the chart. When a planet transits there we are asked to consider; what do I want? You also have to think in terms of polarities what happens in the 1st also influences the 7th-which is the house of marriage.

It is reported that Brad had an “affair” let it be noted that my astrology instructor said you can cheat when a planet is in the 12th house after all the 12th house is the closet, it holds our secrets but once a planet crosses into the 1st your secrets will be revealed. The 12th house -no one sees not even you-it holds our self undoing but the 1st house everyone sees.

Brad Pitt also has Uranus squaring his Moon- the moon rules the women in your life, it also rules your home where you live . Most recently Johnny Depp had this transit we all see how that turned out.

Lastly we take a look at the Composite chart this is the energy of two people coming together; what do they create. Everyone is different with different people and the composite chart shows how you function together as unit.

brad-and-angelina-composite-chart

Uranus here is prominent it is opposite the composite Venus and here we have those themes of divorce and separation. Also Jupiter is about to enter the 1st house this transit is one known to seek freedom (interestingly enough they first got together when Jupiter entered the composite 1st house their relationship lasted one full Jupiter cycle) and this last eclipse hit there Composite Sun head on. The Composite Sun is the life force of the couple, the identity a full moon eclipse often signify endings, completion and the end of an era.

Published September 19, 2016 by starsmoonandsun

This is a quote from the movie Comet

I think it pretty much sums up a Pluto conjunct Sun in synatsry

I met someone recently and this is exactly how I feel, I need to know him no rhyme no reason.

Just this vague curiosity that sort of gnaws at you, a whisper a light come hither

Subtle Pluto is always subtle….until it isn’t LOL the drive is unconscious

Instinctively I knew my Pluto had to be on his Sun.

I prefer Pluto in synastry, the depth, the darkness, the transformation

I have Pluto on my Sun natal so this is going to be mirrored in my relationships with men

I always say I would chose Pluto over Saturn anytime

I would rather climb out of the fiery pits of hell but at least I will be reborn

If you don’t master Pluto, Pluto will master you. Where Pluto is in your natal chart is where you will experience things beyond your control

Pluto is square my Sun from the 8^th house; all relationships with men are these transformational journeys-feel my eyes roll-

I have learned to harness the energy if you don’t and you are like me attracting Plutonian men and situations you will always attract situations where power plays take center stage. It takes an evolved person to work with Pluto.

Pluto is the planet of power; who harnesses it, who exerts it and who holds it. When you have 2 unevloved people with heavy Pluto contacts you have what I call the –check mate –situation one always holding court over the other.

Its always strange to me when you know astrology you can feel the energy that is activated when you meet someone

Pluto has to do with control, so knowing my Pluto is on this Mans sun I’m controlled I am grounded I am conscious of the energy I am putting out

In Jewel Mayberry’s Youtube Video (See here) Sun conjunct Pluto she described Pluto Conjunct Sun in a way I never quite thought of

“the sun person makes them (Pluto) feel warm where usually these are the cold, dark, parts of themselves ”

“You (Pluto) are use to it being zero degrees but now its 90 (Sun)”

After I kissed him I tweeted

Kissing you was like being dead for a thousand years and being brought back to life.

How Pluto conjunct Sun can I get? Pluto rules death and the sun is the life force

During a conversation he mentioned something alluding to ruining his life.

In Jewel Mayberry’s video on sun conjunct Pluto she mentioned

“The sun person can see the Pluto person as a threat to their identify”

Pluto is an agent of change, Pluto transforms whatever it touches so while I was annoyed at the implication I was reminded that Pluto can perhaps come off as an imminent threat to the Sun persons identity

When I see him again I will try to travel lightly as to not send him running for the hills after all I haven’t I finished knowing him and Pluto loves unearthing whatever it touches bit by bit

Progressed Sun Square Mars Transcending My Ego come hell or high water

Published September 3, 2016 by starsmoonandsun

I have several hard core transits right now Pluto is opposite my sun and squaring my moon and Uranus is exactly squaring my mercury. I am familiar with the Pluto energy I have Pluto on everything natal. Not all astrologers believe this, but I think when energy is familiar to you, you will not feel the transit as much because it is already integrated into your psyche/life and what have you.

What’s doing me in is this progressed sun square natal mars:

Textbook says you will have trouble with young men (this can sometimes be a violent aspect)

If you are not familiar with progressions and how to read them click below

https://starsmoonandsun.com/2012/03/04/a-breif-introduction-into-progressions/

The Sun and Mars both represent men, the men in your life. What the astrology textbook doesn’t tell you is that man will be like an alien life form from outer space.

This is Karmic his Saturn opposes my Venus and my Saturn squares his moon At his worst he may have Narcissistic Personality Disorder at the very least he doesn’t know how to love a woman properly but somehow I am stuck with him. This is a Saturn in synastry thing it binds for better or worse that is why it is often preferred to see in the charts of people that marry they will be less inclined to skip out. However I am not dating this man nor am I marrying him but he has been sent here from outer space to drive me crazy.

I confess I know I will be a better woman for it, but it hurts to grow, to stretch and quite frankly I was fine the way I was before, before he came into the picture.

Natal Mars the planet of young men (he is 10 years my junior) and aggression is squaring my progressed sun. The sun is your ego your identity and lately I have been working overtime on transcending my self.

I have my natal sun in the 5^th house so I probably have an over sized ego. This is the house of my identity, my hobbies, my children my my my my my My mother once told me after someone broke up with me “you don’t really care its just your ego. Perhaps she was right.

I do care about him for whatever reason (residual past life crap) but yet I cannot date someone that is an alien. We don’t speak the same language we don’t see things the same way. But I can’t just toss him to the side ( I am also having a progressed Venus conjunct Sun but more on that later) I have to deal with him in some capacity socially I cannot escape him and this forces me to confront parts of myself I would rather not. He doesn’t behave in a normal fashion and for a second his behavior was extremely unsettling and upsetting to me I was angry at first and on some days I am still angry my ego yells who are you to do this to me? How dare you promise me the sun, moon and stars and not deliver! Why would you do this to me? How dare he do this to me? Meanwhile he behaves this way with all women. It’s a strange thing to watch someone hold themselves apart from the very things they say they desire. He has an inability to love. He lacks the capacity to have a normal relationship. He is like an extraterrestrial. He has all these defense mechanisms up they are impossible to get beyond. I rarely ever see him exude any real sense of joy. People can only give what they have right? I believe in astrology, introspection, and the law of attraction so I had to face some things about myself knowing: if you attracted it to you it is active with in you. So being with him forced me to examine my own levels of narcissism (clearly not pathological) and defense mechanisms . Him and I both have Saturn in the 7^th house which is known to put up barriers between you and other people. You can not take rejection so this placement will leave you before you can abandon them. We both also have self reliant moons (mine in Aries and his in the 1^st house) leaning on others or being receptive to what others need in relationships probably aren’t areas we are naturally gifted. Remember his Saturn opposes my Venus so he is here to teach (Saturn) me something about love (Venus). But he is also teaching me about transcending my ego, learning to not allow others issues to become our issues that people are only operating from their own level of consciousness.

I tweeted once

“people only treat you and love you from their own level of consciousness so you have to let it all go its not personal”

I know that on mental level, it resonates with me mentally but getting the rest of me up to speed with that is another story.

And here I go again on a mission to transcend my ego.

This man will tell me I am beautiful his dream and his behavior is totally ET or maybe something out of that old Sigourney Weaver movie.

So while on one hand I may be upset I tell myself: none of this has anything to do with me. I try to treat him with love, kindness I would even go out on a limb and say I have been nicer to him than I have been to any man in my entire life (and let me tell you that shit burns my ass talk about Ego issues)

I am very reactionary and he knows this so a lot of times in typical Mars fashion he will light a fire under my ass and watch me scream at him and probably delight in it. But every time I am trying to be less and less hostile and channel my inner Zen, I make focus wheels about him (watch my video) Make Focus Wheels to raise Vibration I pray on it and I have a chat with my ego I say self these are his issues stop reacting it has nothing to do with you.When people treat us a certain way it reflects what is at war inside of them and when we allow people to treat us a certain way it reflects what is at war inside of us. People that frustrate and upset us can be our greatest spiritual teachers if we would only allow them. When we meet someone and react in sorrow or anger they are showing us the aspects within ourselves that require healing. Please take the time and ask yourself what can I learn here? What are they here to teach me?

I know from meeting this man a strong desire to have a normal, healthy and honest relationship was born from the ashes of the dreams this man sold me.

Now you would think it would be enough to transcend my ego but I am also having a progressed Venus conjunct natal Sun aspect. These are both exact , this is a big one they say if you have never known love before this will be it, this is “the one” progression. I can’t speak on that it will last another year I will be sure to let you know, but it isn’t enough for me to transcend my damn ego I also have to have compassion for him LOL. Sun conjunct Venus is the aspect of love. And while a normal man that isn’t from outer space isn’t anywhere in site I wonder if perhaps this progression is teaching me compassion so every day I meditate I literally do a love and kindness meditation and send him some positive vibes. I have started to wonder how loving are we as human beings if we can only love people when they are acting lovable? And if we want love to manifest in our own life, shouldn’t we extend our loving and compassionate nature towards those that act unlovable. After all people only love others about as deeply as they love themselves. Happy and healthy people, conscious people do not run around hurting the people that care about them. Isn’t it the people that are hurting the most the ones most in need of love? I try my hardest to show him love when I see him I hug him and treat him kindly because I recognize hurt people hurt people and wounded dogs bite.

This isn’t to say we should remain in relationships with people that hurt us, but hating them will never bring us closer to the great love we desire. Wasn’t it Martin Luther King that said “Hate cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate only love can do that”?

You can wish people love and healing from a far. I would never suggest you stay in a relationship that is unhealthy or abusive. If you think you are dealing with someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder please visit my YouTube channel I have received lots of positive feedback from my videos on Narcissists. Narcissistic Personality Disorder

A lovely person on twitter suggested I read some books by Marianne Williamson that mention narcissism. I particularly found the book “A Return to Love” one of the best books I have ever read and know I will read it again and again.

This progressed Venus conjunct natal Sun also falls in my 5^th house of self so I have really began focusing on self love. I find it ironic that someone that seems to have the inability to love can teach another lessons on self love and compassion. I started doing self love Sundays on twitter I think it is important to love yourself openly and actively. Love is a verb right that’s what they said in my positive psychology class so if you want love to manifest in your life start by loving yourself only then can we extend that love outwardly. I also think there was a huge lesson or learning experience here that you have to love yourself enough to not allow other peoples behavior to upset you. Your ego says How could you do this to me but your soul says I recognize hurt people hurt people.

Last Night I was in a New Woman’s Circle and at the end of class everyone selected a different card. I received the harmony card. This to me was a divine message to A. Continue to extend Kindness and B. Continue to seek joy no matter what others are doing.

I will leave you with some of my Self Love Sunday Tweets

Happy Travels

Jupiter enters Libra September 10th 2016

Published August 4, 2016 by starsmoonandsun

Jupiter will enter Libra on September 10^th 2016 and will stay in the cardinal air sign until October 10, 2017. Jupiter stays in a sign for approximately a year and will transit the entire birth chart in 12 years. Jupiter transits are quick and not life changing. I have received some flak for saying that I am not fond of Jupiter transits. I feel more than anything they infuse the house they are in over a 12 month period with optimism but if anyone is looking for quick lotto gains and Princesses Diana weddings I don’t believe Jupiter brings us this despite what we are sometimes led to believe.

In my opinion the most significant Jupiter transits are when Jupiter crosses the ascendant and into the first house I have seen some people abandon their old life in search of new. Just recently someone I know moved after 20+ years at the same residence and another that changed jobs after 15 years in the same establishment. Jupiter transits to the 1^st house encourages people to take chances and leaps of faith. I love that!

I’m also fond of your Jupiter return I believe this brings blessings or gifts to the house that holds the natal placement of Jupiter. This occurs approximately every 12 years so ages 23, 36, 48 etc. A planetary return is when a planet returns to the place it was at the time of your birth. For example the Solar Return happens once a year on your birthday when the sun returns to the place it was at the time of your birth, a Saturn Return happens twice at the age of 28-31 apprx and 56-60, Uranus makes one return if you are lucky enough to live to 84 but Jupiter due to the quick rate at which it moves will return to your natal Jupiter every 12 years. I find those years to be particularly significant

Jupiter Rules:

Optimism
Prosperity
Freedom
Expansion
Morals
Wisdom
Trust
Goodwill

When Jupiter transits a house more than anything we believe in the possibilities, our approach is an inclination that things will work out. We believe and while IMO that isn’t the transformative energy I much prefer, it can certainly lighten the load.

Libra is the sign that corresponds to

Beauty
Partnership
Equality
Balance
Fairness
Harmony
Diplomacy

Libra Rules the 7^th house in astrology home to

Law Suits
Open Enemies
Marriages and Divorces
Negotiations
Contracts
Business Partnerships

(Of course Libra also has the shadowy side as well –indecisive, superficial, in need of partnership to the point they often cannot function alone)

I find the nature of Jupiter corresponds well with the philosophies of Libra. In Author Molly Halls book (cover featured below) she describes Libra as a sign “that’s passion for justice makes Libra a sign that excels in diplomacy, law, politics, mediation and social advocacy”. She goes on to describe the planet Jupiter as “Jupiter rules all areas in which an over reaching meaning is sought; these include religion, publishing, philosophy and the legal profession”. I would go so far as to say that I expect to see Jupiter’s visit to Libra to either enhance our current partnerships both personal and professional or free us from them. Remember Jupiter rules expansion and freedom and often you will find during a Jupiter transit you are let go of or fired from a job you really didn’t like or you find the courage to leave an unfulfilling relationship (Libra being the sign of partnership). Sometimes things happen that seem awful at the time but really serve to expand (Jupiter) our consciousness and quality of life really.

I am still hopeful to see some law enforcement reform with Saturn Lord of Karma visiting Sagittarius and now perhaps getting a boost from Jupiter in Libra. Both Sag and Libra correspond to legalities both being somewhat idealist signs I think perhaps they can bring some much needed change in Police Departments across the country (fingers crossed). More than anything I expect Jupiter in Libra to alter the way we as a whole relate to one another. I would expect to see a boost in our partnerships. If you are a Libra rising, Sun or moon do watch your diet this is the transit of gaining weight. After all Jupiter expands whatever it touches and sometimes that is our waistline; on the Ascendant that is how you appear and the moon rules your eating habits. I know we tend to think of Jupiter as a beneficial transit but you do want to watch your debts (8^th house) and expenditures (2^nd house) when Jupiter transits the money houses as already mentioned Jupiter expands whatever it touches and that isn’t necessarily always a good thing.

The Tarot Card associated with Jupiter in Libra is 4 of swords sometimes knows as Truce. If you think about the number 4 it is all about balance and that is what Libra seeks most, equality. Four is a stable number 4 legs to a table, a square has 4 sides, we have 4 cardinal points, east, west, north and south, 4 seasons, 4 phases of the moon etc. Swords are related to air and intellect Libra is an air sign, concerned with peace, diplomacy and like all air signs: ideas. The 4 of swords is about taking a time out before the fight which is indicated in the 5 of swords, it seeks to find a peaceful resolution. I recall someone once describing Libra as an “Iron fist in a velvet glove”. So perhaps this tarot card is the gathering of strength, the rest before the action, as you can see 3 swords are above the sleeping man and one is just below him, easy to grasp in a moment’s notice. While Libra may seem passive one must not forget they are a cardinal sign like Aries, Cancer and Capricorn so they do direct their energy outward. I also believe this card relates to Jupiter in the sense that Jupiter is sometimes the bragger yes someone that talks excessively (Jupiter in the 3^rd house or Jupiter on Mercury) but sometimes Jupiter is an inner knowing an inner expansion and inner peace and that is reflected in this card.

I hope Jupiter’s visit to Libra brings you the improved relationships you seek. If nothing else maybe we will be inclined to see the very best in others xoxo

Happy New Moon in Cancer 7/4/16

Published June 23, 2016 by starsmoonandsun

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True Life I dated a Narcissist -Astrology

Published May 12, 2016 by starsmoonandsun

I have been on the fence about writing this, who am I kidding I have been on the fence about accepting this. Dating a narcissist, you will never ever understand it unless you have actually lived it and I can say I will never judge a situation from the outside looking in again. You can do any Google search to find out what narcissism REALLY is but all you really need to know is narcissists never change, there is no cure for their behavior and it is one of the toughest personality disorders to treat. Anyone that has dated a narcissist will research extensively their behaviors. I think the mind of a normal human being cannot fathom the manner in which they operate. You cant believe there are people out here walking among us disguised as caring human beings when that aren’t. They are soulless, they lack empathy, they simply do not possess that ability to connect emotionally. After having known someone for several years I have come to find I never new him at all. Only the facade, the empty shell, the outer layer.

Some of the characteristics of Narcissism

Charm

Astrologically Venus on the rise (in the 1st house) Libra or Taurus rising can be very charming. The Ascendant is what you project out into the world it is the mask you wear, the face you show, it’s the door to the house not the interior.

I am not sure what to say about charm to me it’s nothing more than a decoration. Politeness gets me more and Narcissists are all of that charming, polite they project their best face out into the world. This is not necessarily their authentic face. And only those that have known them intimately will see the interior behind that fraudulent mask.

Venus on the rise can do that, the Venus like qualities are displayed. I also believe people with Venus connected to the 1^st house are attractive usually this is the planet associated with love and beauty. (Libra more so then Taurus, Taurus tends to deal with the more financial side of Venus but still)

charm is decitful Narcissists charm narcissists fake fake fake

Lies

Dear God they will lie like a bear skin rug I wonder if they believe their own lies or do they wish they could stop lying and can’t help themselves. Everything I have read says they lie for sport, they get a kick out of people believing their lies it feeds them.

Mercury planet of communication aspecting Neptune (conjunction, square, or opposition) the planet of deception is found in compulsive liars. I know people that have this that do not lie and I know people that lie habitually that don’t have it. Astrology isn’t one stop shopping.

When Neptune planet of deception aspects Mercury you can find someone that is deceptive, the mind can also be confused when Neptune aspects Mercury, there is confusion in thinking and sorting and remembering facts. This can also indicate an artistic mind, but I am not here to write about anything other than narcissism today. Astromix.org writes with Mercury opposite Neptune “cleansing yourself of deceptive influences is essential not just the outer influences effecting you but also that pattern of creating them”

The Neptune energy becomes infused into Mercury so here we have deception meets communication.

Narcissists will lie about everything they will promise you the world and deliver you NOTHING! Maybe an occasional crumb they will take you on a magic carpet ride and drop you straight out of the sky without a care in the world.

Mercury in hard aspect to Jupiter can also indicate lying but not in the deceptive way as with Neptune. Mercury/Jupiter often indicates promising more then you can deliver. Jupiter the planet of expansion is filtered into Mercury plant of communication so here we have BIG plans and BIG dreams that while dating a narcissist will never see the light of day.

psychopath people that lie i love you lie

Projection

Projection is when we take our own traits but do not acknowledge them in ourselves instead we find them in others so it is not uncommon for Narcissists to call YOU crazy when In fact they are called “the crazy makers” to accuse YOU of cheating when in fact they are the ones slinging that dick all around town. They do not and will not ever be self reflective or introspective so they will continuously feel as though everything is happening to them not within them. They often suffer from a woe is me mentality and lure others in with tales of woe.

crazy makers

projection

Projections in astrology are found in oppositions

Oppositions are 2 planets in opposing signs. When planets are opposite one another we often experience them as happening to us, that someone from the outside is doing something to us. I bet Narcissists have a high level of oppositions. Mine certainly did, his are off the charts.

Projection and Oppositions

We all have oppositions (well most of us do) they can be helpful in relating to others and for those that are self aware we can check in with ourselves; am I projecting this onto others? What in me is activating this experience? For instance I have moon opposite Pluto so a lot of times in the past I have had issues with women, power struggles. Now I think to myself, I would rather be happy then argue and I don’t engage (not all of the time) I also own the fact that I attract women that love or hate me because I am someone that is extreme in MY feelings. You attract what you are- universal law of mirrors. Anyway a narcissist will never process things like that because they will never look with in at their real self because they project this image of a false self. That’s the same image you fell for, the one that isn’t real.

This narcissist had a lot of oppositions the one I found most relevant was Venus (women, planet of love, ruler of women) opposite Mars ( God of War) This can be someone that hits women. I never saw this man lose his temper like that. But if not that they create situations in their love (Venus) life that is combative (Mars) Mars in continuously filtered into their love nature. They have the inability to have normal intimacy. They create havoc and turmoil. A Narcissist cannot have normal happy monogamous relationships. I think it was best said here:

Venus opposite Mars

You can read the full blog post here:

http://astrologytruth.blogspot.com/2015/04/abnormal-sex-drives-insatiable-appetite.html

Narcissists are known for pitting women against one another. They also have a number of “crazy exes”

triangulation

Narcissist crazy exes Narcissist quotes drama

They need to have constant chaos surrounding them. Projections are often the reason Narcissists have a Victim Mentality they don’t take ownership of their own action and feel as though everything is happening to them

fate quotes

Chiron

Everything often goes back to childhood and I do wish I could feel more compassionate towards narcissists but I simply cannot and if you ever encountered one you would know why. I know from a detached logical viewpoint that they are wounded birds. I know hurt people hurt people. I know normal people don’t go around treating people who care about them like shit. This particular gem LOL has Chiron the wounded healer exact conjoining his Sun-his identity-his ego- his life force. This is a wound usually inflicted or somehow related to the father figure. I will not get into his personal life, he may lack integrity but I don’t. The person with sun conjunct Chiron is born with a pain, a hole with in them. These people -non narcissists- will build other people up, they are other peoples cheerleaders they celebrate in others what they can not do for themselves. That’s the thing with Chiron you are wounded in that area but you can help others. However no one ever talks about the darker side of Chiron

“The Sun is the only heavenly body that casts a direct shadow on the Earth; the full moon casts shadows but its more diffuse light is reflected from the Sun. This ‘dark side of the sun’ is relevant when Chiron aspects the Sun. It represents egomania, narcissism, a belief that one’s purpose is god-ordained and therefore any means justify the attaining of it. With these aspects, we can become authoritarian, and desire to be in sole control of life and everyone we come into contact with; we may be willful, inflexible, to contemptuous and always need to be right. Coming face to face with this controlling, destructive and autocratic side of the masculine principle is often a difficult part of the journey of those with Chiron/Sun aspects. “-Melanie Reinhart’s book Chiron and the Healing Journey

Mass killer Elliot Rodger has an exact Chiron conjunct Sun in Leo You can read about him and his narcissistic personality disorder here

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-mysteries-love/201406/elliot-rodger-s-narcissism

I did a reading for someone recently for a client that had Sun conjunct Chiron they asked me if they were a narcissist and I laughed and said absolutely NOT a narcissist will never ask if they are a narcissist because a narcissist isn’t reflective they are projective. Besides they think they are perfect

The Lessons

I have to say I have never encountered someone like this in my life but as an ever evolving being I take the time to look for the lessons and they are plentiful

“Protect your magic “
Surround yourself with happy and healthy people
Follow your intuition ( I kept ignoring mine. I didnt want to believe it)
Trust in the timing of your life Dont be in a rush to meet someone you want the right person and they will come at the right time
Get real about what you want. When you are unclear about what you want the universe will deliver you any old body

I will leave you with some of my favorite narcissist quotes

Narcissist quotes protect your space

loving a narcissit narcissist you are full of shit

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