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Venus Saturn aspects and marriage delays..

Published January 18, 2014 by starsmoonandsun

I’m not sure I will ever get married. I said it. I wrote it. I acknowledge it. Most importantly I’m ok with it or at least on my way to becoming ok with it. If love isn’t everything it is nothing. I can’t walk that line that others do, having relationships that are more like friendships and roommates. No, that life isn’t for me. I want it all. Fuck I have Sun in the 5th house the house of romance and I’m not giving that up so I can have someone to help me pay my bills or so that I have a plus 1 response on wedding invites. Recently an ex of mine who I work with (How very Venus in Capricorn retrograde) one that I left, one who still holds resentment toward me for breaking up with him nearly a decade ago made a snide comment about my not being married. And in the past I think it would have hurt, maybe I would have cried but I didn’t and it doesn’t. And quiet honestly I breathed a sigh of relief that I wasn’t in that head space of needing to be married to somehow be defined as a person or as a woman. This isn’t to say I will get over people asking me why I’m not married or why haven’t I met someone. I find this question to be rude, it seems we live in a society where it is better to have a loser husband that cheats and can’t hold a job then no husband at all. I can see why in my natal chart I’m not married. It is very clear, I have Aquarius rising this is a loner trait, Venus in Gemini can’t make a decision…like the thought of forever can be scary I don’t even want to renew my cell phone contract for 2 years. And that god awful Saturn in my 6th house conjunct my Descendent; the house of marriage. Saturn restricts whatever it touches; it issues delays, lessons and hard work. Just yesterday for the 1st time I noticed Capricorn is on my 12th house cusp-the house of self undoing-ruling planet of Saturn touching my house of marriage. The 12th house is also privy to past lives, transcendental experiences and I would think this adds another layer to my personality to my partner preference; that is just can’t be anyone, the connection has to be outer worldly and sometimes those connections are hard to keep, to make last in this world. I recently did a post on makeup artist Kandee Johnson she has Saturn conjunct Venus ; I think she is in her 30’s and has been married a few times (maybe twice), this is very indicative of Saturn on Venus. You fall in love so you want to get married. She makes her life’s work from a Venus ruled field of beauty and obviously she takes love seriously. Love is marriage, love is commitment and yes love is hard work. These are all Venus Saturn themes. I almost fell over while doing research on women with Venus and Saturn in aspect and found Patti Stanger (Millionaire Matchmaker) has Venus Square Saturn no wonder she isn’t married! I know she has received some bad press over the years for giving advice while she herself is still single, but truth be told often those that can’t do ….teach. I don’t mean this to sound harsh but it is true. Here is another example of Venus on Saturn; Patti’s life work is a Venus ruled field; her life’s work (Saturn) is matchmaking (Venus). I find this fascinating. Saturn Conjunct the descendent, Venus in Capricorn, Saturn in the 7th house, Saturn square Venus, Saturn opposite Venus all produces a central theme. Love is hard to find, love is hard to come by, love is hard work, often this can produce an inequality where one partner does more than the other, there can also be relationships that have a 7+ year age difference. The person with Saturn on Venus or in any of those combinations will end up with someone older or younger. Everyone wants to know why Cameron Diaz is single so I looked at her chart…Cancer rising puts Capricorn on the 7th house cusp;Tyra Banks also has this configuration, Lucy Liu has Saturn square Venus and at the time of writing this has never married she is 47. Capricorn is ruled by Saturn; obviously delays in marriage. While I don’t particularly find Cameron Diaz appealing I admire the way she rocks her single status and Tyra Banks is a power house! Does being single define them…I hope not! The gorgeous and extremely talented Marissa Tomei has never been married and she is 49, her time of birth isn’t published but I imagine she has Saturn in the 7th house especially since she recently became engaged to a man 12 years her junior! Ellen Pompeo married at 37, Selma Hayek at 40, Diane Sawyer at 42, Rosie Perez 49, ….all of them have Venus/Saturn in aspect. Marisa Hargety got married for the 1st time at 40 & she glows! She has Saturn square moon; the moon rules her 7th house of marriage. I’m not saying it is easy, it isn’t. The person with Venus is aspect to Saturn takes commitment seriously, we want someone to share our lives with, but somehow underneath we know that relationships take hard work and we want to make sure we marry or commit to someone where we see a return on our investment. When we say our vows we want to mean them! I know this aspect in hard to live with, so many people have written to me. I think the key is to develop your own sense of self, make your life as meaningful as possible, remember being single is a choice….anyone can find some Joe Shmo off the internet and marry him and most importantly remember that Saturn is all about timing, biding time, father time, in due time, in a matter of time. And gently remind people that make rude commentary that you aren’t like everyone else you are waiting for the right time and for the right person. Best of luck. Wishing all my Saturn Venus peeps nothing short of a great love. I ll leave you with a few quotes. xo
the great loves are the crazyi want a love that engulfs my soul
mad passionate love

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Sometimes you are Damned if you do damned if you don’t

Published July 26, 2013 by starsmoonandsun

solar retun chart
I looked at my solar return chart months prior to my birthday and saw that I had my solar return Venus on my natal Saturn. Venus the planet of love on Saturn the planet of restriction, duty, commitment, and time. Timing is everything, how very cliché. Venus doesn’t go well with Saturn, they don’t hold hands. One is light and love and well the other is work. I thought this can’t be good. No you should not look at one aspect you have to take the entire chart into consideration blah blah blah but being single I want to know where my moon (feelings) and Venus (heart) are going to be for the year. 2012 was good year I had Saturn in the 3rd house of communication and thought so I spent a lot of time writing and it was nowhere near my moon or Venus. I’m going to tread lightly here, but this year Venus is in the 10th house of career and Saturn is in my 6th house of daily work; draw your own conclusions on how we met. Looking at this year’s solar return the energy was vaguely familiar so I looked back on my Solar return charts since 2009 when I first met my “plutonic love” and this only enhanced my state of awareness. Damn astrology. I had Scorpio Rising then as well, Saturn in the 7th restricting my relationships, moon in the 12th; feelings that lay secret. 2010 Saturn yet again in the 7th restricting relationships, my moon was in the 4th house; the 4th house is the darkest part of the soul it rules the cradle to the grave and lastly in 2011 when my “plutonic love” married someone else I had Saturn Conjunct moon in the 5th house of love affairs falling into the 8th house of transformation. A recipe for heartache. From 2009 – 2011 were very difficult times for me. I had a lot of sorrow. I mean those years were the catalyst for all I do today, the reason I moved, the inspiration for this blog, those years defined who I’m today, sadly sometimes joyfully but always definitely. So here we are 2013 and I meet someone, I like I never like anyone, sadly. I called my friend when I met him and explained the charts and said I can’t go through this again. Then went to see my own astrologer, I didn’t mention anything and he said this year is a good time to have an affair, (Gay men gotta love them they are so liberal). I myself clearly can see this Venus conjunct Saturn in my Solar Return indicating this is a man I like that has prior commitments. Just like the Saturn in the 7th house for my other 2 solar return charts. 7th house equals relationships Saturn literally can indicate a man with commitments, where Saturn lies there is restriction and hardship. I thought to myself; you cannot go down this road again this road that leads nowhere this path that is nothing more than a cul-de-sac where you end up where you started. I’m not in the mood for a transformative journey because I have been transforming since 2009 and I’m tired. Oprah once said; lord don’t teach me nothing new today”. That’s how I feel. I decided to choose differently, because I didn’t want to be in that place because I know that I’m not a light sort of person, I know if I like you I have the great capacity to love you and I’m unable to have just a good time. So I chose differently, I choose to acknowledge that this person is fascinating, but I will do nothing about it. When you know better you are suppose to do better. Isn’t that the idea to learn from the past and not repeat it? Someone tweeted the other day: We must all suffer one of two things the pain of discipline or the pain of regret and disappointment. That’s where I’m at emotionally I wondered if I could avoid my destiny, avoid what is in the chart? And I can say yes and no. I decided to not jump in head and heart first like I always do, but Venus is still on that Saturn and I still do like a man that has prior commitments. What up with you and your solar return? xo

PS a fabulous Gemini recommended I watch the movie TIMER I think considering Saturn in Astrology is considered Father of Time and timing is indeed everything, it is worth a mention.

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