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“you’re needy” the air and water sign dilemma

Published September 25, 2016 by starsmoonandsun

I have been called needy before I have been told I require too much attention. I attract mostly air sign men though Libra and Gemini will be the two that most often label me this. Something about Aquarius suns they understand me most they really get me out of all the air signs. Perhaps that is because I have Aquarius rising.

I am not needy and laugh at the utter absurdity of labeling me as such. But generally speaking I dislike labels. I have an Aries Moon this it itself means I do not need anyone (the moon rules your needs and Aries is the sign of self). I am comfortable alone, I am actually quite the loner not particularly social So when someone labels me needy I really want to tell them instead of affixing me with such an insulting adjective why don’t you apologize for having the inability to actually meet my needs. Isn’t that really the case when someone calls you needy? This is their way of confessing they have an inability to give you what you desire

“People only see you from their level of perception”

Water and Air signs do not understand one another on an ego level…on an identity level. Though I am inclined to say water signs appreciate air signs intelligence I love someone intelligent it’s admirable to be well read to know facts and figures on topics I have really no strong interest in.  I as a Cancer sun can celebrate the more cerebral parts of a person. After all I do have Venus in Gemini and feel that love can first begin in the mind and nothing is as beautiful as a man with a big vocabulary. But I still possess a water sign sun and nothing could describe me more than the quote below:


But we live in a society where intellect and achievement is valued over intuition and feeling. And here is where water signs are often labeled needy…our contributions aren’t celebrated like air signs and air signs rarely if ever can understand us. I am not sure they even try; sometimes I feel they are quick to dismiss us so easily feeling swept up under a wave of our emotion.

Air signs project qualities onto us without actually communicating or asking what we need or desire they so often think they know everything.

I dated a Gemini man that would always say to me “I don’t want to talk about having children”  this man assumed I wanted children he never even bothered to ask me …I surely would have  told him I don’t want any.

They see us only through their level of perception and that level of perception is what they think we need/feel/desire without having any real knowing of what we need/feel/desire

Air signs need to be free and have the most difficult times relating to others on an emotional level. If you think of air it’s the breath and they need plenty of room to breathe and roam. Air signs never want to feel held down they have the fear of suffocation…that’s an air sign for you. They filter everything through the mind and love if anything has no place being sorted out through intellect. It must be felt.

Water signs however use intuition to process everything we are formless like air yet we seek someone to house us and be our container. Water signs seek to emotionally connect, we want to merge with you on a soul level we want you to house and be a safe place for our ever changing emotional states.

Water signs use touch and non verbal communication as modes of expression

So while air signs tend to think we are all up there ass we are simply communicating without words how much we like/admire/desire them

Air signs use words as a means of expression.

I do believe this can be sorted out if water signs would allow air signs that room to breathe and if air signs would acknowledge and celebrate that we don’t need them we merely connect through physical and intimate expression.

I think water and air have a great deal to teach one another with air encouraging water to be more rational and detached and with water teaching air to get out of their head and into their heart. Water can teach air that in essence not everything that counts can be counted.

Liz Greene writes in her book “relating”

“The airy type has a problem with feeling…because feelings like everything else which comes under his microscopic eye cannot be classified, structured, analyzed or fitted into the framework”

She goes onto say about the air signs

“His richest relationships will be with the feeling types for they are both his greatest fascination and the reflection of his own inner self”

Greene goes on to mention that water signs have a “problem with reason”

And that “water is magnetically attracted to air and if these two types could cease their endless skirmishing they could learn much from each other about their own unconscious lives”

For a long time now I feel we should just accept people as they are without labeling them one thing or another. The truth of the matter is people cannot be boxed in, we are multifaceted human beings and often the things we love about someone are the same features we devalue overtime. (See the Before Sunrise trilogy) Water signs are drawn to air signs for the way they can be objective and analytical and air signs love water for their creative energy and for having a way of tapping into what the air sign needs on a subconscious level to diminish and weaken these connections with adjectives such as needy (water signs) and shallow (Air signs) is an assault on the very soul of what we love most about one another.


Hi My Name is Danielle & Im earth deficient

Published July 31, 2012 by starsmoonandsun

I’m that person that doesn’t stop for gas until my tank is flashing empty, I sneak out of dinner parties to run to the ATM because well quite frankly I hate going, I don’t budget my checkbook until all of the checks have been cashed woopsy. It’s not that I’m irresponsible I go to work daily squeezing in 15 hour days often Natal Saturn in the 6th keeps me working hard. It’s just these practical detours that annoy me the small stuff drives me crazy. I first became abundantly aware of this energy when I purchased my house; fax this… sign this. These tedious details left me having several mini nervous break downs often; upon moving in; it was paint this, hang that … I felt like hanging myself from my shower rod. Even now I had someone install shades but I still need some sort of drapes. I purchased various versions of purple & pink they arrived in several boxes I was unable to decide which ones I liked. Someone called to inquire if I hung them yet truth be told I ironed & put up all of them up & liked none of them. Silently questioning, who actually enjoys all the details that go into decorating? This person advised me to just leave it alone, that’s when I broke down confessing I hate fucking window treatments. I have to hang them eventually though, there is no such thing as letting it be…. with 4 planets (Sun, Moon, Mercury, & Pluto) in cardinal signs nothing goes undone but do I enjoy these tedious tasks? Hell no! Not for one minute. Sadly I’m earth deficient.

People with an abundance of planets placed in earth signs (Taurus, Virgo and Capricorn) are practical, Productive, interested in tangible results. The only earth planet I have is Mars in Taurus, Mars in Taurus is slow, methodical, and painstakingly thorough but it isn’t enough to ground me, simply not enough to make these tedious tasks enjoyable.

It is odd to be suddenly aware of these energies inside of me. The Cardinal signs (Aries, Cancer, and Libra & Capricorn) are eager to initiate tasks. They are independent enterprising, direct and quick to set forth on new paths…sadly these tasks have nothing to with housework, puzzles, gardening (Very Tauruean), or crosswords, Sudoku, reading some quanta physics literature (Very Capricorn) or rising early, eating lunch daily at noon and hitting the gym by 1 (Virgo-ish routine).

I do admire these traits in others, I suppose that is a case of opposites attracting. We admire in others what we lack in our selves.

I have a friend she lacks water (Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces), she tells me stories of how she can’t stand having to many woman friends. Stating “Oh they are just too emotional”, she has never been in love where she lost sight of herself. I need mental stimulation she concedes. I joke and tell her, drink a bottle of Fiji you are dehydrated. I offer advice: the way to the heart is not through the brain (I’m a Cancer sun). But she cannot help it with planets in mostly air signs (Gemini, Libra, Aquarius) she is emotionally detached. Recently she has begun dating a double Scorpio (Sun and Moon). Truth be told I’m not sure how long this will last; the sign of deep emotional sharing with an airy-intellectual sign…uh I ll keep you posted.

Astrology is a gateway toward greater understanding.

If you are very emotional type, with great highs and lows of your chart is probably Water Dominant. Water Signs are intuitive, feel their way through life long for deep emotional attachment.

If you have an array of air planets you an “ideas” person concerned with mental connections, they are emotionally detached.

With an abundance of earth planets you are prone to conservatism; you are interested in long term results. Practical is the name of the game.

Planets in fires sign (Aries, Leo, Sagittarius) live life with gusto, they are like shining stars basking in the limelight, cheerful and ready to GO GO GO!

Of course you have to look at the entire chart when analyzing, but if you find yourself flinging dishes when you are angry and your partner is calm which infuriates you even more as he says “lets talk about this in the morning” while sweeping up the pieces, please know you are coming from a place of water and he is earth oriented

Another reason all sun signs are not the same: Decans

Published March 1, 2012 by starsmoonandsun

I have to admit I’m not a fan of “on the cusp” maybe my opinion will change over time but for now I feel like pick a side, pick a sign. I do however like the concept of the decans, it explains why along with other factors that for instance all Gemini’s are not alike. Astrological signs are made up of 30 degrees. The first 0-9 degrees are very true to the sign, while the next 10 degrees will not only possess the qualities of that sign but also the following sign in the same element and the remaining 10 degrees will  encompass the qualities of the last sign in the same element.

For example if your Sun is in 0-9 degrees of Cancer , born anywhere from June 22-July 2nd  you are a true Cancerian ruled by the moon; home based, you probably bake cookies and long to collect antiques and trinkets from the past.

 If you are born in the degrees of Cancer up until 20 degrees, dates July 3rd to July 12th that is the 2nd decan of Cancer ruled by Pluto (Scorpio proceeds  Cancer). The 2nd decan of Cancer has an uncanny strength and will power.The head ALWAYS over ruling the heart unlike other Cancers. They enjoy digging beneath the surface; they may have an aura of secrecy.

 That last decan of Cancers born on July 13-July 23rd are ruled by Pisces (the last water sign) and the planet Neptune. This indicates a romantic nature that may be somewhat out of touch with reality. Remember Pisces are symbolized by 2 fish swimming in circles. Compassionate, kind and an interest in unusual places and people sets you apart from the other Cancers.

Which Decan were you born in?

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