Ruler of the 12th house in the 7th house

An ex-boyfriend of mine called me this week (Happy Mercury Retrograde) from many, many years ago; he is one of those exes I will always see when he calls; meet for drinks & remember when. You know Cancers we are nostalgic in nature. He is a lot of things, generous being one he introduced me to Versace (his Jupiter falls on my Venus); quick witted he has Mercury in Virgo forming a sextile to my Mercury in Cancer. He has also spent a significant amount of time in jail. When he called it gave me a flash back memory on something I once read about the ruler of the 12th house being placed in the 7th house. “Marrying an ex con was in the article”, something I quite honestly don’t have an issue with, true love comes in all forms.

It is important to look at your ruler of the houses and see what house they fall in:

  • Aries Modern Ruler is Mars
  • Taurus Ruler is Venus
  • Gemini Ruler is Mercury
  • Cancer Ruler is the Moon
  • Leo Ruler is the Sun
  • Virgo Ruler is Mercury
  • Libra Ruler is Venus
  • Scorpio –I always go with Pluto
  • Sagittarius Ruler is Jupiter
  • Capricorn Ruler is Saturn
  • Aquarius Ruler is Uranus
  • Pisces Ruler is Neptune

This is how it works; naturally in astrology the 12th house rules dreams, compassion, self-undoing, merging, the soul, transcendental experiences, sorrow, things we turn a blind eye to, things we simply don’t see, perhaps things we don’t want to see, the skeletons in our closet, escapism, and yes jails & psychiatric facilities. That is the 12th house to everyone!

Now in my personal chart on my 12th house I have Capricorn on the cusp; the ruler of Capricorn is Saturn. Saturn is conjunct my 7th house cusp of partnership both marriage & business partnerships. This means I bring my 12th house energies to my 7th house of marriage. I own it; I laugh at it in the past I have told my Mother I wish I could meet a man out of rehab (12th house rules rehabilitation centers) I wouldn’t mind someone that has lived life a bit. I don’t mind a little dirt, a little edge. I have in the past used my partnerships to escape my life.

My plutonic love and I (the man whom this blog is dedicated to) spent quite a long time in a bubble. We were all of those 12th house things music, a transcendental connection, baths (12th house is water) alcohol and when that bubble burst I realized that love cannot exist in a bubble, that you can use someone to escape your reality for only so long. Reality is always and I do mean always waiting for you on the other side. I can see all the ways I betray myself in partnerships. I see myself undoing. I learned that lesson. I am meek in relationships. I’m stronger alone. In my next relationship I will try to not get lost. I also read that with the 7th house ruling business as well you take your sorrow over broken relationships to launch new businesses & wa-lah here is my blog.

I will forever bring Neptunian traits to my relationships; it has to be a soul connection, music, merging, dancing & sharing dreams are essential! And he can be fresh out of rehab, perhaps spent his youth in correctional institute or maybe he will just work in a hospital or struggles with mental health issues but I know one thing is for sure the connection must be outer worldly, the merging of souls, a little love, sex and magic is a must.

What are you bringing to your 7th house?


  1. Please:
    See the solar revolution in the year 2016 to one born (male) of the 27 June of the 1968. There is the same place that yours, with Saturn being the ruler of the 12th Saturn on the cusp of the seventh house, but retrograde. Has also Pluto retrograde in the 12th house RS. THIS Pluto retrograde conjunct the cusp of the 8th house home.
    I understand by your post, you again meet with your ex, who was arrested. But this worked?
    There is the possibility that the RS showed you be on: “. You get in touch with your spiritual side through marriage and committed partnership” ???

  2. I’m currently in a relationship with a man who is incarcerated. We’d spend long hours on the phone (when he had one) and I’d lost my job at the time. Now that he no longer has access to a phone, we write one another, which is such a huge switch from being in touch every single day. When he lost his phone, I realized that he’d taken me away from my day to day concerns, and the excitement and thrill that I got from talking to him hindered my approach to practical issues (i.e. looking for a job). Now I’m really starting to question where this relationship can actually go. He’s locked up (possibly for some time), yet I still feel connected with him. Like, I really think he’s my soul mate (of course I did our synastry). The 12th house is tricky though…I can’t tell if I’m being progressive, insisting that love can be found anywhere with anyone, or naive and setting myself up for failure. I have Sagittarius on the cusp of my 12th and it’s ruler, Jupiter, in my 7th…I also have Mars in my 12th house

  3. I´m not sure how the true meaning of the 12th house influences my 7th house, but unfortunately i do see how Capricorn influences my 12th house, and how Saturn influences my 7th house…

    I do have a conjunction of Jupiter and Saturn in the 7th house in the sign of Libra, but i have a feeling that Jupiter is canceled with this conjunction, but even if he is not, I have both planets intercepted, because the sign that rules my 7th house is Leo, not Libra….

    I guess, single forever!

  4. Thanks for clarifying.
    My DC is nearby too, so sometimes I understand this Jupiter Saturn weighing me down, big time. And to be honest I have not been that lucky with business partnerships or the other. I have a me versus the world attitude a lot.

  5. I have a Saturn Jupiter conjunction in my seventh, so I guess one of the rulers, Saturn, is in its own house? Ruler of the ninth, Jupiter, would be in the seventh house.
    With Saturn Jupiter there, I’m serious about finding my big love!

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