An ex-boyfriend of mine called me this week (Happy Mercury Retrograde) from many, many years ago; he is one of those exes I will always see when he calls; meet for drinks & remember when. You know Cancers we are nostalgic in nature. He is a lot of things, generous being one he introduced me to Versace (his Jupiter falls on my Venus); quick witted he has Mercury in Virgo forming a sextile to my Mercury in Cancer. He has also spent a significant amount of time in jail. When he called it gave me a flash back memory on something I once read about the ruler of the 12th house being placed in the 7th house. “Marrying an ex con was in the article”, something I quite honestly don’t have an issue with, true love comes in all forms.

It is important to look at your ruler of the houses and see what house they fall in:

• Aries Modern Ruler is Mars
• Taurus Ruler is Venus
• Gemini Ruler is Mercury
• Cancer Ruler is the Moon
• Leo Ruler is the Sun
• Virgo Ruler is Mercury
• Libra Ruler is Venus
• Scorpio –I always go with Pluto
• Sagittarius Ruler is Jupiter
• Capricorn Ruler is Saturn
• Aquarius Ruler is Uranus
• Pisces Ruler is Neptune

This is how it works; naturally in astrology the 12th house rules dreams, compassion, self-undoing, merging, the soul, transcendental experiences, sorrow, things we turn a blind eye to, things we simply don’t see, perhaps things we don’t want to see, the skeletons in our closet, escapism, and yes jails & psychiatric facilities. That is the 12th house to everyone!

Now in my personal chart on my 12th house I have Capricorn on the cusp; the ruler of Capricorn is Saturn. Saturn is conjunct my 7th house cusp of partnership both marriage & business partnerships. This means I bring my 12th house energies to my 7th house of marriage. I own it; I laugh at it in the past I have told my Mother I wish I could meet a man out of rehab (12th house rules rehabilitation centers) I wouldn’t mind someone that has lived life a bit. I don’t mind a little dirt, a little edge. I have in the past used my partnerships to escape my life.

My plutonic love and I (the man whom this blog is dedicated to) spent quite a long time in a bubble. We were all of those 12th house things music, a transcendental connection, baths (12th house is water) alcohol and when that bubble burst I realized that love cannot exist in a bubble, that you can use someone to escape your reality for only so long. Reality is always and I do mean always waiting for you on the other side. I can see all the ways I betray myself in partnerships. I see myself undoing. I learned that lesson. I am meek in relationships. I’m stronger alone. In my next relationship I will try to not get lost. I also read that with the 7th house ruling business as well you take your sorrow over broken relationships to launch new businesses & wa-lah here is my blog.

I will forever bring Neptunian traits to my relationships; it has to be a soul connection, music, merging, dancing & sharing dreams are essential! And he can be fresh out of rehab, perhaps spent his youth in correctional institute or maybe he will just work in a hospital or struggles with mental health issues but I know one thing is for sure the connection must be outer worldly, the merging of souls, a little love, sex and magic is a must.

What are you bringing to your 7th house?