The Madonna Whore Complex & The Man that looks good on Paper

Published July 20, 2012 by starsmoonandsun

In my dreams I am documentary film maker following people to see whom they love and whom they marry; usually they aren’t the same person. When I meet people and hear they are married I often ask questions that other people wouldn’t dare to ask like, is he/she “the one”, do you have “one that got away”, you would be surprised at people’s candor. Most times the truth comes pouring out, once while heading home from a night out my taxi driver confessed he should have married someone else but picked a woman that would be a good mother to his children. Talk about taxi cab confessions. I feel this topic comes up most with males, where as females pick a “good provider”. These sentences horrify me while at 35 I remain single. Settling for less than is simply not on my agenda. With a virtually unaspected Venus with the exception of it trining Pluto, I can’t imagine marrying” the get by guy. Like he is just good enough, he will do. Like a pair of shoes that are a little tight but they are 70% off so fuck it you will buy them anyway. Many many years ago someone told me they believed I needed someone I could ride through life with and this couldn’t be more true. With natal sun in the 5th house a good provider isn’t on the agenda, a nice bonus by all means but I need someone that I can enjoy life with, I want to slow dance when we are 10 years in, take yearly vacation perhaps minus children to keep our sexy going as a couple. But until that day comes I listen to others tales of woe about whom they have married. Once I met a Sagittarius man that wed a Cancer woman, I was like hmmm. He confessed he should have married someone else. Mind you this is all happening while waiting on line at a convenience store. I said a “Cancer” cringe, that’s a tough one. Gave him a short synopsis on how Cancers are homebodies and Sagittarius belong to the world blah blah blah I said I see you more so with a Gemini, Well behold his one that got away, he still remembered her birthday 15+ years later was a Gemini. I want to tell him I’m also a notary and would be happy to extend my services if he should want to get divorced. Astrology readings and notarization. That is what you call one stop shopping. But she was married and living somewhere else and his kids were still in high school etc etc.

Look I’m in no way a specialist in the relationship department, I don’t claim to be but I feel with my entire being if people married who they truly loved this country would have a lot less divorces. People that get your blood going PASSION with passion there would be a lot less affars.Not the person your parents prefer not the man who buys you a big house but he is always at work so you never see each other (Venus in Square to Saturn in a woman’s chart) not the woman that is a great mother prototype but you have 0 desire to sneak up on her in the morning shower (moon in hard aspect to Venus in a man’s chart). But the one you want with your entire being.

In a man’s chart

Moon opposition/square Venus

A man with the Moon (mother, feelings, nurturing, ) in hard aspect (opposition or square) to Venus (love, beauty, sex, intimacy) is prone to these types of choices in love. They cannot reconcile the mother of their children and the person they want to ravage in the morning shower. The truth is you can marry someone that is great with children and gets your libido going! Someone can be a mother, a whore in the bedroom and a housewife. I encourage men to be aware of this aspect so they aren’t marrying someone who essentially after time they do not want to be intimate with. Madonna/Whore Complex is activated here. They see a woman and put her in a category Wife check or Sex Check

 

In a woman’s chart

Venus opposition square Saturn

I have had several clients with this aspect and I tell them to have their eyes wide open with the selection of a mate. This indicates the woman that marries the practical man, the husband that goes to work every day and is dutiful in paying the bills. YAWN! Venus in hard aspect leaves the woman feeling that this is love, that perhaps love isn’t warm and fuzzy that it is work and responsibility. Maybe she is more concerned with being comfortable financially. Please be advised like the Eagles sang, “A big old house gets lonely, every form of refuge has its price”

 

In closing I don’t have the answers, sometimes secretly or not so secretly now I wish I could be that woman that is practical. That marries the man that looks good on paper, but it goes against all I believe in of love. I think astrology brings to the forefront all of inner most working and if we acknowledge them and work on the more challenging aspects we can be free to live a life of abundance…hopefully with true love beside us.

 

Xoxo

Love Peace Happiness & a Few Wild Horses

 

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