A Venus Retrograde obituary

Published August 6, 2015 by starsmoonandsun

When Venus first went retrograde I was flying high, I thought this has nothing to do with me. Hahahah I am single I am happy I’m mediating burning essential oils and at one with the world. I knew on a conscious level Venus retrograding from Virgo (the sign of service) to Leo (sign of self) that issues or lessons would arise surrounding loving yourself (Leo) before you can take care of and love others (Virgo). I was all knowing and Zen but then a full moon hit my 12th house of subconscious and the things we don’t want to look at and Venus is after all retrograde in my 7th house of partners, enemies and those we face and all this madness came bubbling to the surface. I imploded and exploded.

Venus Retrograde

Retrograde periods are for reviewing, reworking, reconsidering, reconnecting with Venus being retrograde we reconsider our values, the way we give and receive love, and with it being placed in Leo we shouldn’t underestimate the power of self care. Retrogrades are a more internalized manifestation of the planet. They ask us to go within. Venus the planet of relationships has us reconsidering the way we relate to others. But before we can change our outer experiences we must go within and reconsider our own contributions both positive and negative to our partnerships.

I reconnected with someone who natal has Venus conjunct Saturn and I personally have Saturn in the 7th house, this is the same concept different aspect. We keep people out, we don’t let anyone in, and we are terrified of being hurt and abandoned. The both of us also have Saturn transiting opposite our Venus and his Saturn is conjunct my Venus in Synastry this indicates karmic lovers, hard lessons in love, seeing what you have to work on, being forced to acknowledge and own your shit. We went out on the full moon (I should have known better) and without getting into the details I will say I came to see all the ways I work against myself in partnerships, that I am the one that keeps people at arm’s length. They say that people will mirror you, that karmic ties particularly show you all you are and make you face yourself. This is really painful.  Him and I have many of the same issues. Our houses line up, we both have Sun in the 5th house, and we are both the life of the party masking our insecurities. I like to think that sometimes you lose yourself in others, but sometimes you meet yourself in them too.

we accept the love we think we deserve

I came face to face with myself that night, the relationships and disappointments that no longer serve (Virgo) me (Leo) Things and people I have held onto that haven’t completely been released. The way I hold others at a distance and how I shove them away if they get too close. I’m also going through a Pluto-moon-sun-transit and Pluto is always screaming you can’t take this shit with you when you go.

venus retrograde

I am undergoing a release of old outworn patterns, releasing old lovers (retrograde) going forward I plan on exercising more self-care (Leo) why do we only treat ourselves to reiki and massages when we are in the gutter. We should pamper and celebrate ourselves not just at times of crisis.  So many lessons here to learn, so much to release so this is my Venus in retrograde obituary I release all outworn patterns, hurts and relationships. I am open and ready to welcome in new energies, relationships and love.

What has Venus Retrograde been teaching you?

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Saturn/Venus; Keeping Love at Bay

Published July 8, 2015 by starsmoonandsun

I have been thinking about Saturn lately. I know I have written about him before you can take a look here:

http://starsmoonandsun.com/tag/saturn-conjunct-venus/

http://starsmoonandsun.com/synastry-vs-composite/love-is-hard-saturn/

http://starsmoonandsun.com/tag/saturn-transits/

http://starsmoonandsun.com/synastry-vs-composite/saturn-in-synastry-round-2/

http://starsmoonandsun.com/synastry-vs-composite/let-sleeping-babies-lie-saturn-in-the-saturn/

If you are familiar with me you will know I have Saturn in the 7th house, Saturn in the 7th is similar to Venus in Capricorn, Capricorn or Aquarius on the 7th house cusp or Saturn aspecting Venus Hastag #SameShitDifferentAspect

Restriction in love

Blocks to love

Delays in love

I admittedly only recently came to realize I keep people at arms length, Saturn is cautious-Once bonds are formed with a Saturn person they know they are etched in stone, Sade’s “Like a Tattoo” song comes to mind. Personally I also have a heavy Pluto on my Sun, Moon, Jupiter, Saturn, Midheaven and Ascendant. I am prone towards extremes in dealing with people. I either love them or hate them, rarely lingering in indifference this only enhances difficulties in relationships.

Back to Saturn

A few weeks ago someone expressed to me they don’t feel I love them; they are undergoing Saturn hard transits (conjunction, oppositions and/or square) to their Sun, Moon and Venus simultaneously.  I attempted to reassure them that I do love them to no avail. They said they don’t feel I love them because of this that and the other. I thought to myself: this is so Saturn, wanting people to prove your love to them, setting a standard or a bar for how people should love you.  I thought of the quote

“Just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have”

Saturn/Venus can put loved ones through a series of tests wanting the other party to prove their love and devotion.  Likely the person jumping through hoops is set up for failure because Saturn sets the bar too high, Saturn can have unrealistic expectations. I contemplated how to proceed but I’m not a fan of proving myself to anyone, take me as I am or pretty much watch me as I go is my motto.

I know this person is going through quite an ordeal they aren’t into astrology and they aren’t in a state of awareness so I left the door open for them to come back… likely when this transit is over.

Saturn/Venus transits or natal can indicate issues of self worth, setting high unachievable standards for others, relationships feel like they are a lot of work, sometimes a person feels so unlovable themselves they project that out into the world feeling as though no one will love them (love is first and foremost an inside job). You can’t keep people at bay while simultaneously desiring them to love you. Life doesn’t work that way.

I confess I myself in the past have had walls (Saturn) so high with a list of requirements it would be unlikely anyone could reach.

According to Liz Green in Saturn An New Look at  A Old Devil “Venus Saturn combinations imply a certain amount of emotional pain in the early home life” it suggests lack of affection or direct appreciation for who the child is as an individual according to Greene. She further goes on to write about Venus Saturn contacts “These are people whose emotional growth has been stunted in childhood”.

Sometimes you find a Venus/Saturn person so devastated by a first love or heartbreak they cut themselves off vowing to never let anyone hurt them again.

I have known a man for several years he has Moon in Capricorn and Venus conjunct Saturn. He hasn’t been in a relationship ever nearing the age of 50 and while he is always gracious and fun (Gemini Sun), and bluntly honest (Mars on the Ascendant in Aquarius) I don’t think he will ever let anyone in. Unlike the other person I mentioned, he isnt open to love PERIOD, he isnt looking for you to prove anything to him. He seems to spend his life with people that do not know him, a superficial sort of travel and party lifestyle with various companions/friends/lovers. I saw him recently for my birthday after having not seeing him in about a year and a half. We have great synastry so its always all love, light and a natural ease when we get together. But I know he will never let anyone in. Maybe that’s a part of my own Saturn in the 7th house, attracting people that keep me out. I always have a strong desire toward prying someone open. This would never happen here, he is tightly sealed. He mentioned to me how its always easy being together, that no one in his entire life ever treated him like I do. I once bought him flowers. He is the only man I ever bought flowers for. My Mars in Taurus conjuncts his Venus I’m sure that had something to do with it. Sometimes if I see something, a quote, a cartoon, or a piece of art that reminds me of him I will send it to him. He said no one ever sends him things or touches him so light not like I do. I don’t attempt to change/mold/prove to him anything only making a mental note that the reason he surrounds himself with people that don’t care about getting close to him is so he will never have to get hurt. He prefers it that way. Recently telling me “if people see your weak spot they will only use it to hurt you”. Saturn on Venus can’t deal with the thought of rejection. If you never get close to anyone or let anyone in, no one can possibly hurt you.

This is a man with both of his feminine Planets influenced by Saturn, Moon in Capricorn (rules mom and women in his life) is ruled by Saturn and Venus the female principal is squared by Saturn. He will not acknowledge anything family wise except to say everyone loves his parents and his father is a high level attorney. Moon/Saturn or Moon in Capricorn restricts emotional outpouring. Here is another issue of feeling worthy or needing people to prove their worth to you. According to the book The Astrology of Family Dynamics Moon in Capricorn “it is not the lack of love but the ability to demonstrate or express loving feelings is diminished”. I simply wish him love, light and healing thoughts always knowing his capacity to receive love is at a limited capacity.

Right now I am going through a Saturn opposite my natal Venus transit, oppositional transits often involve people on the outside, coming to you or you can experience the opposition as a projection…those people don’t love me, those people have hurt me. Placing blame on to others what you don’t recognize in yourself that is what is happening with the person i mentioned early on.

Ultimately Saturn lessons involve; learning how to let people in, learning how to trust, learning to forgive people for not being 100% of what you want them to be; no one can meet that requirement. And if you have Saturn/Venus people in your life simply tell them I love you I am here if you need me and wish them love and light.

The Astrology of Brook Ayers and Vicki Gunvalson Real Housewives of O.C

Published June 19, 2015 by starsmoonandsun

vicki and brooks Vicki and Brooks

Vicki and Brooks Synastry charts.

On the day they were born the moon did not change signs however with out a proper time of birth we will not have the proper house cups and house overlays

Predicting divorce and a little Ben and Jen

Published May 30, 2015 by starsmoonandsun

bena nd jenI don’t think I am a fan of predicting divorce. I noticed Ben Affleck and Jennifer –whats her name are in the tabloids again people are speculating for the 100th time after 10 years of marriage this time it is really over. Ben is off again on his own….ooooh (sarcasm) he is hitting the casinos, counting cards and enjoying some alone time. The man has the moon in Scorpio (privacy) in his 5th house of gambling, betting and risk taking. This is his thing, will probably always be his thing no matter who he is with. The 5th house also rules sports and we all know he is a diehard Red Sox fan. No doubt he is likely to feel exposed when these reports surface, with Cancer Rising and the Scorpio Moon combined with all his planets below the horizon (in personal houses) and the only 2 planets above the horizon are in the 12th house of privacy this isn’t someone that wants to have his business out on front street. When I look at his synastry with Jennifer Gardner, I don’t see it. I don’t get it not on the paper in my hand and not when I see them. His feminine planets are in Scorpio and Cancer and the majority of her planets are in Gemini. Don’t get me wrong I never want to see him sprayed tan and emasculated standing beside Jennifer Lopez again but I don’t get this connection. Jen and Ben met when his progressed moon was on his Descendent-when the progressed moon transits the 7th house it is likely you are ready for a relationship and Jens progressed Jupiter was conjunct her Descendent, she was also ready. But over the last several years while Saturn was in Scorpio Ben has had several hard transits to his Sun in Leo and Moon in Scorpio and once Saturn reenters Sagittarius it was pass over Gardners Gemini Moon, Venus and Mars. They won’t get a reprieve for awhile.

The both of them also have Cancer Rising indicating they both have the same transits to houses for instance both of them now have Pluto digging its way through their 7th house of marriage and approximately 4 years from now they will have Saturn transiting their 7th. That can be the issue with having the same houses, who will be the partner to hold the others head above water if they are both drowning. When one is losing faith it is likely so is the other! What’s that saying “the secret to a successful marriage is never falling out of love at the same time”. That is kind of hard to do when Pluto is knocking on both your doors simultaneously.

Hard times continue to be ahead for them and any relationship when you have outer planets (Saturn, Uranus, Pluto and Neptune) transiting the 7th house. But I don’t think divorce and break ups are an easy prediction. And I don’t think new astrologers should automatically assume divorce is a likely outcome when an outer planet enter a persons 7th. After all people don’t necessarily stay married for some romanticized reason. Some people stay married to avoid family or in this case public scrutiny, some may stay together for the children…Bens Scorpio moon, Cancer rising and his Pluto in his natal 4th indicates he is very protective and dedicated to his family however dysfunctional that may be. Other couples stay together because the fear of the unknown is paralyzing. We do see this most with the fixed signs, Taurus, Scorpio, Leo and Aquarius and Ben Affleck has both, a fixed Moon and Sun. The natal potential of the individuals involved have to be taken into account. If for instance someone has natal Saturn conjunct Venus when Saturn transits their Venus this energy is familiar to them .

So instead of predicting the demise of a relationship lets prepare ourselves and others of what’s ahead

Saturn transits to Venus or through the 7th house

Shit or get off the pot, commit or quit, it’s now or never, for singles you want a permanent commitment. For married couples; love has become work. You are inundated with responsibilities-could be kids, could be career –could be you feel you are married to a nag. My ex said when Saturn was in his 7th house “if I knew marriage was going to be like a 2nd job I wouldn’t have done it” Marriage requires work when Saturn transits the 7th or your Venus. You may feel alone while married if you are single it is likely you feel lonely as well. Lessons in relationship, attracting karmic relationships, this brings huge tests. If your relationship is one that is rather dreamy and Neptunian Saturn’s visit to the 7th is like getting hit with a brick called reality

Uranus transits to Venus or through the 7th

Uranus is known as the planet of separation. I have seen this bring divorce, you want to be free, you have an affair, you are looking for excitement, you are searching for someone that is unconventional, you want to feel alive, you are smacked awake Singles attract Uranian types that are unlikely permanent. Married people may separate, or take on a side piece of ass. You can possibly divorce, or perhaps breathe new life into your partnership and/or redefine your relationship.

Pluto transits to the 7th

The superficial won’t do, digging deep, confronted with the darkest parts of your partnership all things Plutionian must be confronted, power struggles, secrets, the darkest parts of your relationship the stuff that lurks in the corner that you ignore demands to be confronted and only once you strip all the false pretense, dig deep to find your truth together and let go of all false pretense only then will your relationship die and be reborn. Survival is the theme, letting go of ego,of defining-what is-the ending of an era. For single people you attract Plutonian types, you become obsessed with someone unattainable, you get a stalker, you marry someone that wants to control your life, you long to discover the depths of someone. Either way the superficial will not do when Pluto enters your 7th house

Happiness depends on you this New Moon in Taurus

Published May 16, 2015 by starsmoonandsun

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My New Moon in Taurus Mantra

“I Release all thoughts (Mercury) that block (Saturn) me from making my wishes (New Moon) a reality (Taurus)

If you follow me on Twitter you know I always encourage you to write down your new moon wishes once a month. I love the period of the New Moon, I like beginnings I have a natal Aries Moon and often feel I am on a journey of searching for newness. I like to try new things, see new places….the New Moon is a period of planting seeds that ideally reach fruition by the time of the Full Moon when the moon is at its brightest and fullest. I usually don’t post about the New Moon every month but several people seem particularly worried about this New Moon. The New Moon in earth sign of Taurus occurs on May 18th so the Sun and Moon will conjoin in the sign of the bull in 26 degrees (during a New Moon the Sun and Moon are always in the same sign) this New Moon forms an out of sign conjunction with Mars (meaning you want to take action) but perhaps you feel restricted or immobile because this New Moon is opposite Saturn and occurring on the same day that Mercury is stationary, or apparently has stopped before heading into retrograde.

Retrograde periods in itself are always about RE-doing, RE-viewing, RE-considering no matter the planet If its Pluto we RE-view our power, if it’s in Uranus we RE-consider where we want to be free, in Neptune we RE-vise our dreams, with Saturn being retrograde this is a time we REVIEW what has been blocking us, ya know if you didn’t get the lesson on the direct you always get it on the retrograde. With this New Moon being connected to Saturn retrograde we need to review all the ways we have been blocking ourselves from achieving our dreams. Taurus is not a flighty whimsical sign, it’s a ground earth sign that is all about the tangible what we can see with our eyes, touch with our hands; so this New Moon opposite Saturn is saying before you can go forward (Mars) you need to RE-lease all the blocks, limitations, and hardships (Saturn) within yourself (Retrograde) . Keep in mind Saturn is in the sign of Sagittarius; the only thing keeping you away from what you want is your belief!  Some say Sagittarius Keywords are “I perceive” Changing your perception may help alter your reality. Sagittarius is naturally a sign of optimism, perhaps this is a period of finding our inner cheerleader where we are most blocked (Saturn).

This occurring on the day Mercury stations in the sign or communication Gemini only reinforcing the idea that we need to review our inner dialog. Go on a journey within this New Moon, clear out old limiting (Saturn) thoughts (Mercury) change your perception (Sagittarius) and then your wishes (New Moon) will become a reality (Taurus)

Vacation & Saturns transit through my 9th house

Published April 15, 2015 by starsmoonandsun

I have read some warnings about traveling while Saturn is transiting the 9th house, don’t travel you won’t have fun or if you do travel you should travel to a Saturn ruled country. London is one I have been there, Mexico is another been there twice, New York check I live there and India…pass I’m not up for the flight. My New Years resolution last year was to take one major vacation a year this year Costa Rica next year my goal is the Amafi coast. I’ll take a 4 day trip to PR here and a 4 day trip to Las Vegas there I once even flew to Paris for a weekend. But I have never taken a long vacation that lasted for over a week. It’s hard for me to relax. I was a amazed at the ways I could see Saturn transiting my 9th house manifest 3 days in to my vacation. Keep in mind Saturn is also in Sagittarius sign of long distance travel First and foremost this was an all inclusive thoroughly planned trip it involved getting up at 5am the days were planned from morning to night with activities. (I never ever plan and I’m not a morning person) this is so Saturn, after all Saturn rules structure I once read “you always take the natal placement of a planet with you during a transit” and I truly felt that way on this 10 day meticulously planned trip. In my natal chart Saturn resides in my 6th and 7th house. 6th house rules daily work and while on this vacation I learned many lessons I will take with me to work. I work in a hotel and am continuously annoyed that people checking in do not want to leave a credit card well what do you know I didn’t have to leave a credit card at my hotel and it drives me nuts when people leave luggage in the room and believe someone will magically pick it up at check out. Well wa-la in Costa Rica someone does magically pick up the bags from the room! I learned a lot of lessons-God Saturn is always some how related to work and lessons-and I will bring many back to work regarding hotel customs in other countries. I haven’t forgotten that Saturn is in retrograde motion so I have been given an opportunity to review my habits and reconsider the way I relate to other people.I also have Saturn in the 7th house- people sometimes forget that the 7th house isn’t merely your marriage and business partners it rules “others” period the 1st house is you and directly across from that is the 7th-others and what do you know most of the individuals on my trip were my mothers age! It never occurred to me that I would be traveling with “older” people when I saw Saturn transiting my 9th but Saturn does rule maturity and the 9th house rules long distance travel. That is how Saturn manifested for me, these are things an astrology cook book website won’t  tell you. I enjoyed my trip and I loved talking to people about their lives the lessons they learned, the regrets they had marriages that fell apart , others that lasted, who had children and who couldn’t. I learned a lot about people and the ways we are all connected, the way our lives are similar at any age, in any country of any social status.  I laughed to myself when one person advised me to put sun screen on because I was getting sunburn and another lovely women told me Danielle you have 10 more minutes in the pool then the bus is leaving. So parental …that’s Saturn for you.  I’m packing up and getting ready to leave Saturn is about to retrograde across my natal Venus in Gemini in the 3rd house; Gemini and the 3rd house both ruling transportation I left my car at the shop while I was away only to be informed I have a bill for car repairs upon my return I had been putting off that are THREE times the amount I was expecting to pay (Venus also rules money, Saturn opposite Venus can indicate hardship in finances).  Saturn rules time & one of the things I had done was a timing belt I had also been putting some other stuff off and off and off and Saturn always forces your hand. What you didn’t do/learn during Saturn direct he will certainly get you on the retrograde. Also a very nice boss of mine was terminated, apparently someone reconsidered his position Saturn like I said always goes back to work, retrograde involves reviewing. Saturn was squaring his Virgo Sun (Saturn square sun is one of the most difficult transits IMO) What Saturn transits have you experienced? When it goes through the 1st house you discover maturity through the 2nd your finances may be restricted in the 5th house you may find it difficult to conceive a child, Saturn transits involve maturity, hardships, delays, challenges, I would love to hear about yours.  Follow me on Instagram to check out my vacation pics xo StarsMoonandSun1

Marriage BootCamp Zzzzzzzzzzzzzz Tyson and Rachel

Published March 22, 2015 by starsmoonandsun

rachel and tyson synastry

I recently finished watching Marriage Boot camp on WE http://www.wetv.com/shows/marriage-boot-camp , occasionally developing a narcoleptic fit while watching Rachel and Tyson. They seem dead inside she wanted to get married he was dragging his ass after 6 years of dating. Tyson was born under the sun sign of Gemini an air sign associated with Peter Pan and the eternal child. Rachel a lack luster Leo with Sun, Mercury and Jupiter all in the sign of the fixed lion. Fixed signs (Taurus, Leo, Scorpio and Aquarius) don’t like change they cling to what’s familiar. I kept thinking if that’s what love looks like…….PASS.

I was surprised to learn Rachel was a Leo; I have a strong admiration for Leo Ladies and gentleman and have never encountered one as dull. Some famous Leo ladies: Jennifer Lopez, Vivca A Foxx, Coco Chanel, Charlize Theron, Jackie Kennedy, and Halle Berry the list goes on and on.

I ran her and Tyson’s charts I don’t have either birth time so the houses ,overlays and the moon are off.

Rachel actually has a Leo Stellium with her Sun, Mercury and Jupiter all in Leo.  (They married during her Jupiter return)  I expected her Sun to be afflicted by Saturn considering her hmmm how shall I say this; less than enthusiastic disposition but it isn’t. I find people with planets gathered together in one house (she has 4 together) sometimes make for more conservative types with all that energy focused in one area.  Rachel and Tyson also lack a variety of hard aspects. They say pressure makes diamonds ya know. Without hard aspects in the natal chart people can lead a rather straight line in life. Not many challenges, hard aspects (square and opposition) require work, overcoming difficulties, they don’t really have many.

Rachel has Venus planet of love and leisure in comfort seeking Cancer. Ya know the crab holds on tight and doesn’t let go. Venus in Cancer longs for the familiar and what is safe. Her Venus is unaspected and without any major aspects from outer planets a planet operates in purest form. Love of home, familiarity and comfort. Children and having a family are likely important to her. Her Mars (ruler of men the qualities women seek in a partner) is in Gemini Tyson’s sun sign. This can indicate she pursued him, wanted him, and went after him. The Mars of one person on the Sun or Moon in synastry can act as an agent of movement clearly she pushed him into marriage.

The reluctance to marry is immediately spotted in Tyson’s chart when I notice his Venus planet of love, what he seeks in women forms a tight square to Saturn planet of karma, hardship and responsibility. People with Venus in aspect to Saturn or Saturn in the 7th house take marriage seriously. Commitment can give them anxiety, they know marriage is work and enter commitments with a great level of apprehension. His love planet being in Gemini denotes despite taking relationships serious he needs variety in love and a mental connection with Mercury ruling movement and mental stimuli.

Without taking into consideration either of their moon signs I looked at their tightest synastry apsects.  Just as independently in their natal charts they have limited hard aspects, combined they have very few hard aspects. Very few squares and oppositions as we can all see this lack of push and pull can make for a very dull relationship. The tightest hard aspect they had is Venus square Saturn. It is Rachel’s Saturn that squares his Venus. She is the mature one; she is here to teach him, that will forever be the role.

This aspect is binding I have said it a dozen times relationships whether they are exciting or ho hum boring cannot survive without Saturn aspects. Saturn rules the legality of marriage and the responsibility of partnership.

They do not have a predominance of one’s outer planets on another’s inner planets

No Neptune no romanticism and fantasy

No Uranus no electric wild ride

No Pluto no turmoil, no growth and upheaval.

It reinforced the quote for me

“you don’t attract what you want you attract what you are”-Dr Wayne Dyer

They independently do not have challenging aspects so I can’t imagine they would feel comfortable in a relationship that continuously challenges them

“Someone’s planet on your planets acts like a permanent transit”

The tightest nicest aspects they have:

Tyson Venus Sextiles Rachel’s sun I love this aspect; friendship, enjoy each other’s company, perhaps similar leisure activities

Tyson’s Mars (planet of sex) sextiles Rachel’s Venus (Feminine Principal) sextiles represent flowing, easy, harmonious energy so this indicates sexual compatibility

Tyson’s Jupiter in Leo Conjoins Rachel’s Sun and Mercury this is an expansive and forgiving quality so Tyson can bring good vibes and broaden Rachel’s Horizons; in her Survivor questioner she calls Tyson her inspiration…it doesn’t get any more Jupiter then that

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