“you’re needy” the air and water sign dilemma

Published September 25, 2016 by starsmoonandsun

I have been called needy before I have been told I require too much attention. I attract mostly air sign men though Libra and Gemini will be the two that most often label me this. Something about Aquarius suns they understand me most they really get me out of all the air signs. Perhaps that is because I have Aquarius rising.

I am not needy and laugh at the utter absurdity of labeling me as such. But generally speaking I dislike labels. I have an Aries Moon this it itself means I do not need anyone (the moon rules your needs and Aries is the sign of self). I am comfortable alone, I am actually quite the loner not particularly social So when someone labels me needy I really want to tell them instead of affixing me with such an insulting adjective why don’t you apologize for having the inability to actually meet my needs. Isn’t that really the case when someone calls you needy? This is their way of confessing they have an inability to give you what you desire

“People only see you from their level of perception”

Water and Air signs do not understand one another on an ego level…on an identity level. Though I am inclined to say water signs appreciate air signs intelligence I love someone intelligent it’s admirable to be well read to know facts and figures on topics I have really no strong interest in.  I as a Cancer sun can celebrate the more cerebral parts of a person. After all I do have Venus in Gemini and feel that love can first begin in the mind and nothing is as beautiful as a man with a big vocabulary. But I still possess a water sign sun and nothing could describe me more than the quote below:

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But we live in a society where intellect and achievement is valued over intuition and feeling. And here is where water signs are often labeled needy…our contributions aren’t celebrated like air signs and air signs rarely if ever can understand us. I am not sure they even try; sometimes I feel they are quick to dismiss us so easily feeling swept up under a wave of our emotion.

Air signs project qualities onto us without actually communicating or asking what we need or desire they so often think they know everything.

I dated a Gemini man that would always say to me “I don’t want to talk about having children”  this man assumed I wanted children he never even bothered to ask me …I surely would have  told him I don’t want any.

They see us only through their level of perception and that level of perception is what they think we need/feel/desire without having any real knowing of what we need/feel/desire

Air signs need to be free and have the most difficult times relating to others on an emotional level. If you think of air it’s the breath and they need plenty of room to breathe and roam. Air signs never want to feel held down they have the fear of suffocation…that’s an air sign for you. They filter everything through the mind and love if anything has no place being sorted out through intellect. It must be felt.

Water signs however use intuition to process everything we are formless like air yet we seek someone to house us and be our container. Water signs seek to emotionally connect, we want to merge with you on a soul level we want you to house and be a safe place for our ever changing emotional states.

Water signs use touch and non verbal communication as modes of expression

So while air signs tend to think we are all up there ass we are simply communicating without words how much we like/admire/desire them

Air signs use words as a means of expression.

I do believe this can be sorted out if water signs would allow air signs that room to breathe and if air signs would acknowledge and celebrate that we don’t need them we merely connect through physical and intimate expression.

I think water and air have a great deal to teach one another with air encouraging water to be more rational and detached and with water teaching air to get out of their head and into their heart. Water can teach air that in essence not everything that counts can be counted.

Liz Greene writes in her book “relating”

“The airy type has a problem with feeling…because feelings like everything else which comes under his microscopic eye cannot be classified, structured, analyzed or fitted into the framework”

She goes onto say about the air signs

“His richest relationships will be with the feeling types for they are both his greatest fascination and the reflection of his own inner self”

Greene goes on to mention that water signs have a “problem with reason”

And that “water is magnetically attracted to air and if these two types could cease their endless skirmishing they could learn much from each other about their own unconscious lives”

For a long time now I feel we should just accept people as they are without labeling them one thing or another. The truth of the matter is people cannot be boxed in, we are multifaceted human beings and often the things we love about someone are the same features we devalue overtime. (See the Before Sunrise trilogy) Water signs are drawn to air signs for the way they can be objective and analytical and air signs love water for their creative energy and for having a way of tapping into what the air sign needs on a subconscious level to diminish and weaken these connections with adjectives such as needy (water signs) and shallow (Air signs) is an assault on the very soul of what we love most about one another.

The Astrology of Brad and Angelina’s Divorce

Published September 20, 2016 by starsmoonandsun

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I don’t have a personal opinion on Brad or Angelina as I am not really a fan of either. I do however have an affinity for anyone that adopts children I think it is one of the most selfless acts a person can do.

The Divorce is quite obvious angelina-jolie-divorce-transits

Uranus is squaring Angelina’s Venus in Cancer though it never reached an exact square one would presume a divorce or separation would be eminent . Venus in your natal chart along with your 7th house and the ruler of the 7th house all relate to relationships and partnerships. Uranus is the planet of the unexpected and yes separation it is often prominent in the charts of people that file for divorce (though not always). Angelina Jolie has Venus square Uranus in her natal chart which reflects her several marriages. This is often in the charts of people that marry more then one time. Elizabeth Taylor famous for her multiple marriages has Uranus conjunct Venus Via progression Angelina’s natal Venus square Uranus is almost exact indicating a break up or separation is likely

Uranus rearranges whatever it touches, it shakes things up, breaks things up, awakens us and brings sudden abrupt changes.

It isnt always mentioned but when Uranus transits the 10th house -as is the case with Angelina you see a change in marital status. the 10th house rules your reputation and how you are publicly seen so clearly marriage and divorce change this.

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Brad Pitt has Venus in Capricorn and today the exact day they have filed for divorce Uranus is squaring his natal Venus so here we have the theme of separation, a break up etc

When a couple has Venus signs in the same mode (Cardinal, Fixed, Mutable) they will be challenged at the same time. It can be very difficult because one person  cant be the voice of reason when 2 people are both itching to sever ties.

I have discussed this before with Ben Affleck’s divorce You can read more about this here: PREDICTING DIVORCE AND A LITTLE BEN AND JEN

(Though clearly they seem to be attempting to make it work, Ben Affleck has moon in Scorpio however destructive he may be this can be a sign committed to family in its own right)

Brad Pitt also has Saturn sitting on the Ascendant, the 1st house cusp. When Saturn leaves the 12th house and crosses into the 1st it is a time to get serious about what we want. The 1st house is YOU, its the first house, it rules our first breath, its the start of the chart. When a planet transits there we are asked to consider; what do I want? You also have to think in terms of polarities what happens in the 1st also influences the 7th-which is the house of marriage.

It is reported that Brad had an “affair” let it be noted that my astrology instructor said  you can cheat when a planet is in the 12th house after all the 12th house is the closet, it holds our secrets but once a planet crosses into the 1st your secrets will be revealed. The 12th house -no one sees not even you-it holds our self undoing but the 1st house everyone sees.

Brad Pitt also has Uranus squaring his Moon- the moon rules the women in your life, it also rules your home where you live .  Most recently Johnny Depp had this transit we all see how that turned out.

Lastly we take a look at the Composite chart this is the energy of two people coming together; what do they create. Everyone is different  with different people and the composite chart shows how you function together as unit.

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Uranus here is prominent it is opposite the composite Venus and here we have those themes of divorce and separation. Also Jupiter is about to enter the 1st house this transit is one known to seek freedom (interestingly enough they first got together when Jupiter entered the composite 1st house their relationship lasted one full Jupiter cycle)  and  this last eclipse hit there Composite Sun head on. The Composite Sun is the life force of the couple, the identity  a full moon eclipse often signify endings, completion and the end of an era.

Pluto Conjunct Sun in Synastry “Something about you has given me a heightened curiosity to know you better”

Published September 19, 2016 by starsmoonandsun

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This is a quote from the movie Comet

I think it pretty much sums up a Pluto conjunct Sun in synatsry

I met someone recently and this is exactly how I feel, I need to know him no rhyme no reason.

Just this vague curiosity that sort of gnaws at you, a whisper a light come hither

Subtle Pluto is always subtle….until it isn’t LOL the drive is unconscious

Instinctively I knew my Pluto had to be on his Sun.

I prefer Pluto in synastry, the depth, the darkness, the transformation

I have Pluto on my Sun natal so this is going to be mirrored in my relationships with men

I always say I would chose Pluto over Saturn anytime

I would rather climb out of the fiery pits of hell but at least I will be reborn

If you don’t master Pluto, Pluto will master you. Where Pluto is in your natal chart is where you will experience things beyond your control

Pluto is square my Sun from the 8th house; all relationships with men are these transformational journeys-feel my eyes roll-

I have learned to harness the energy if you don’t and you are like me attracting Plutonian men and situations you will always attract situations where power plays take center stage. It takes an evolved person to work with Pluto.

Pluto is the planet of power; who harnesses it, who exerts it and who holds it. When you have 2 unevloved people with heavy Pluto contacts you have what I call the –check mate –situation one always holding court over the other.

Its always strange to me when you know astrology you can feel the energy that is activated when you meet someone

Pluto has to do with control, so knowing my Pluto is on this Mans sun I’m controlled  I am grounded I am conscious of the energy I am putting out

In Jewel Mayberry’s Youtube Video (See here)  Sun conjunct Pluto she described Pluto Conjunct Sun in a way I never quite thought of

“the sun person makes them (Pluto) feel warm where usually these are the cold, dark, parts of themselves ”

“You (Pluto) are use to it being zero degrees but now its 90 (Sun)”

After I kissed him I tweeted

Kissing you was like being dead for a thousand years and being brought back to life.

How Pluto conjunct Sun can I get? Pluto rules death and the sun is the life force

During a conversation he mentioned something alluding to ruining his life.

In Jewel Mayberry’s video on sun conjunct Pluto she mentioned

“The sun person can see the Pluto person as a threat to their identify”

Pluto is an agent of change, Pluto transforms whatever it touches so while I was annoyed at the implication I was reminded that Pluto can perhaps come off as an imminent threat to the Sun persons identity

When I see him again I will try to travel lightly as to not send him running for the hills after all I haven’t I finished knowing him and Pluto loves unearthing whatever it touches bit by bit

 

 

 

Progressed Sun Square Mars Transcending My Ego come hell or high water

Published September 3, 2016 by starsmoonandsun

I have several hard core transits right now Pluto is opposite my sun and squaring my moon and Uranus is exactly squaring my mercury. I am familiar with the Pluto energy I have Pluto on everything natal. Not all astrologers believe this, but I think when energy is familiar to you, you will not feel the transit as much because it is already integrated into your psyche/life and what have you.

What’s doing me in is this progressed sun square natal mars:

Textbook says you will have trouble with young men (this can sometimes be a violent aspect)

If you are not familiar with progressions and how to read them click below

A Breif Introduction Into Progressions,

 

The Sun and Mars both represent men, the men in your life. What the astrology textbook doesn’t tell you is that man will be like an alien life form from outer space.

This is Karmic his Saturn opposes my Venus and my Saturn squares his moon At his worst he may have Narcissistic Personality Disorder at the very least he doesn’t know how to love a woman properly but somehow I am stuck with him. This is a Saturn in synastry thing it binds for better or worse that is why it is often preferred to see in the charts of people that marry they will be less inclined to skip out. However I am not dating this man nor am I marrying him but he has been sent here from outer space to drive me crazy.

I confess I know I will be a better woman for it, but it hurts to grow, to stretch and quite frankly I was fine the way I was before, before he came into the picture.

Natal Mars the planet of young men (he is 10 years my junior) and aggression is squaring my progressed sun. The sun is your ego your identity and lately I have been working overtime on transcending my self.

I have my natal sun in the 5th house so I probably have an over sized ego. This is the house of my identity, my hobbies, my children my my my my my My mother once told me after someone broke up with me “you don’t really care its just your ego. Perhaps she was right.

I do care about him for whatever reason (residual past life crap) but yet I cannot date someone that is an alien. We don’t speak the same language we don’t see things the same way. But I can’t just toss him to the side ( I am also having a progressed Venus conjunct Sun but more on that later) I have to deal with him in some capacity socially I cannot escape him and this forces me to confront parts of myself I would rather not. He doesn’t behave in a normal fashion and for a second his behavior was extremely unsettling and upsetting to me I was angry at first  and on some days I am still angry my ego yells who are you to do this to me? How dare you promise me the sun, moon and stars and not deliver! Why would you do this to me? How dare he do this to me?  Meanwhile he behaves this way with all women. It’s a strange thing to watch someone hold themselves apart from the very things they say they desire. He has an inability to love. He lacks the capacity to have a normal relationship. He is like an extraterrestrial.  He has all these defense mechanisms up they are impossible to get beyond. I rarely ever see him exude any real sense of joy. People can only give what they have right?  I believe in astrology, introspection, and the law of attraction so I had to face some things about myself knowing: if you attracted it to you it is active with in you. So being with him forced me to examine my own levels of narcissism (clearly not pathological) and defense mechanisms .  Him and I both have Saturn in the 7th house which is known to put up barriers between you and other people. You can not take rejection so this placement will leave you before you can abandon them. We both also have self reliant moons (mine in Aries and his in the 1st house) leaning on others or being receptive to what others need in relationships probably aren’t areas we are naturally gifted. Remember his Saturn opposes my Venus so he is here to teach (Saturn) me something about love (Venus). But he is also teaching me about transcending my ego, learning to not allow others issues to become our issues that people are only operating from their own level of consciousness.

I tweeted once

“people only treat you and love you from their own level of consciousness so you have to let it all go its not personal”

I know that on mental level, it resonates with me mentally but getting the rest of me up to speed with that is another story.

And here I go again on a mission to transcend my ego.

This man will tell me I am beautiful his dream and his behavior is totally ET or maybe something out of that old Sigourney Weaver movie.

So while on one hand I may be upset I tell myself: none of this has anything to do with me. I try to treat him with love, kindness I would even go out on a limb and say I have been nicer to him than I have been to any man in my entire life (and let me tell you that shit burns my ass talk about Ego issues)

I am very reactionary and he knows this so a lot of times in typical Mars fashion he will light a fire under my ass and watch me scream at him and probably delight in it. But every time I am trying to be less and less hostile and channel my inner Zen,  I make focus wheels about him (watch my video) Make Focus Wheels to raise Vibration  I  pray on it and I have a chat with my ego I say self these are his issues stop reacting it has nothing to do with you.When people treat us a certain way it reflects what is at war inside of them and when we allow people to treat us a certain way it reflects what is at war inside of us. People that frustrate and upset us can be our greatest spiritual teachers if we would only allow them. When we meet someone and react in sorrow or anger they are showing us the aspects within ourselves that require healing. Please take the time and ask yourself what can I learn here? What are they here to teach me?

I know from meeting this man a strong desire to have a normal,  healthy and honest relationship was born from the ashes of the dreams this man sold me.

Relationships and vibrationRelationships are our mirror quote
Relationships are reflections Abraham Hicks

Now you would think it would be enough to transcend my ego but I am also having a progressed Venus conjunct natal Sun aspect. These are both exact , this is a big one they say if you have never known love before this will be it, this is “the one” progression. I can’t speak on that it will last another year I will be sure to let you know, but it isn’t enough for me to transcend my damn ego I also have to have compassion for him LOL. Sun conjunct Venus is the aspect of love.  And while a normal man that isn’t from outer space isn’t anywhere in site I wonder if perhaps this progression is teaching me compassion so every day I meditate I literally do a love and kindness meditation and send him some positive vibes. I have started to wonder how loving are we as human beings if we can only love people when they are acting lovable?  And if we want love to manifest in our own life, shouldn’t we extend our loving and compassionate nature towards those that act unlovable. After all people only love others about as deeply as they love themselves. Happy and healthy people, conscious people do not run around hurting the people that care about them. Isn’t it the people that are hurting the most the ones most in need of love? I try my hardest to show him love when I see him I hug him and treat him kindly because I recognize hurt people hurt people and wounded dogs bite.

This isn’t to say we should remain in relationships with people that hurt us, but hating them will never bring us closer to the great love we desire.  Wasn’t it Martin Luther King that said “Hate cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate only love can do that”?

You can wish people love and healing from a far. I would never suggest you stay in a relationship that is unhealthy or abusive. If you think you are dealing with someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder please visit my YouTube channel I have received lots of positive feedback from my videos on Narcissists. Narcissistic Personality Disorder

A lovely person on twitter suggested I read some books by Marianne Williamson that mention narcissism. I particularly found the book “A Return to Love” one of the best books I have ever read and know I will read it again and again.

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This progressed Venus conjunct natal Sun also falls in my 5th house of self so I have really began focusing on self love. I find it ironic that someone that seems to have the inability to love can teach another lessons on self love and compassion. I started doing self love Sundays on twitter I think it is important to love yourself openly and actively. Love is a verb right that’s what they said in my positive psychology class so if you want love to manifest in your life start by loving yourself only then can we extend that love outwardly. I also think there was a huge lesson or learning experience here that you have to love yourself enough to not allow other peoples behavior to upset you. Your ego says How could you do this to me but your soul says I recognize hurt people hurt people.

Last Night I was in a New Woman’s Circle and at the end of class everyone selected a different card. I received the harmony card. This to me was a divine message to A. Continue to extend Kindness and B. Continue to seek joy no matter what others are doing.

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I will leave you with some of my Self Love Sunday Tweets

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Happy Travels

Jupiter enters Libra September 10th 2016

Published August 4, 2016 by starsmoonandsun

Jupiter will enter Libra on September 10th 2016 and will stay in the cardinal air sign until October 10, 2017. Jupiter stays in a sign for approximately a year and will transit the entire birth chart in 12 years. Jupiter transits are quick and not life changing. I have received some flak for saying that I am not fond of Jupiter transits. I feel more than anything they infuse the house they are in over a 12 month period with optimism but if anyone is looking for quick lotto gains and Princesses Diana weddings I don’t believe Jupiter brings us this despite what we are sometimes led to believe.

In my opinion the most significant Jupiter transits are when Jupiter crosses the ascendant and into the first house I have seen some people abandon their old life in search of new. Just recently someone I know moved after 20+ years at the same residence and another that changed jobs after 15 years in the same establishment. Jupiter transits to the 1st house encourages people to take chances and leaps of faith. I love that!

I’m also fond of your Jupiter return I believe this brings blessings or gifts to the house that holds the natal placement of Jupiter. This occurs approximately every 12 years so ages 23, 36, 48 etc. A planetary return is when a planet returns to the place it was at the time of your birth. For example the Solar Return happens once a year on your birthday when the sun returns to the place it was at the time of your birth, a Saturn Return happens twice at the age of 28-31 apprx and 56-60, Uranus makes one return if you are lucky enough to live to 84 but Jupiter due to the quick rate at which it moves will return to your natal Jupiter every 12 years. I find those years to be particularly significant

Jupiter Rules:

  • Optimism
  • Prosperity
  • Freedom
  • Expansion
  • Morals
  • Wisdom
  • Trust
  • Goodwill

When Jupiter transits a house more than anything we believe in the possibilities, our approach is an inclination that things will work out. We believe and while IMO that isn’t the transformative energy I much prefer, it can certainly lighten the load.

Libra is the sign that corresponds to

  • Beauty
  • Partnership
  • Equality
  • Balance
  • Fairness
  • Harmony
  • Diplomacy

Libra Rules the 7th house in astrology home to

  • Law Suits
  • Open Enemies
  • Marriages and Divorces
  • Negotiations
  • Contracts
  • Business Partnerships

 

(Of course Libra also has the shadowy side as well –indecisive, superficial, in need of partnership to the point they often cannot function alone)

 

I find the nature of Jupiter corresponds well with the philosophies of Libra. In Author Molly Halls book (cover featured below) she describes Libra as a sign “that’s passion for justice makes Libra a sign that excels in diplomacy, law, politics, mediation and social advocacy”. She goes on to describe the planet Jupiter as “Jupiter rules all areas in which an over reaching meaning is sought; these include religion, publishing, philosophy and the legal profession”. I would go so far as to say that I expect to see Jupiter’s visit to Libra to either enhance our current partnerships both personal and professional or  free us from them. Remember Jupiter rules expansion and freedom and often you will find during a Jupiter transit you are let go of or fired from a job you really didn’t like or you find the courage to leave an unfulfilling relationship (Libra being the sign of partnership). Sometimes things happen that seem awful at the time but really serve to expand (Jupiter) our consciousness and quality of life really.

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I am still hopeful to see some law enforcement reform with Saturn Lord of Karma visiting Sagittarius and now perhaps getting a boost from Jupiter in Libra. Both Sag and Libra correspond to legalities both being somewhat idealist signs I think perhaps they can bring some much needed change in Police Departments across the country (fingers crossed). More than anything I expect Jupiter in Libra to alter the way we as a whole relate to one another. I would expect to see a boost in our partnerships. If you are a Libra rising, Sun or moon do watch your diet this is the transit of gaining weight. After all Jupiter expands whatever it touches and sometimes that is our waistline; on the Ascendant that is how you appear and the moon rules your eating habits. I know we tend to think of Jupiter as a beneficial transit but you do want to watch your debts (8th house) and expenditures (2nd house) when Jupiter transits the money houses as already mentioned Jupiter expands whatever it touches and that isn’t necessarily always a good thing.

The Tarot Card associated with Jupiter in Libra is 4 of swords sometimes knows as Truce. If you think about the number 4 it is all about balance and that is what Libra seeks most, equality. Four is a stable number 4 legs to a table, a square has 4 sides, we have 4 cardinal points, east, west, north and south, 4 seasons, 4 phases of the moon etc. Swords are related to air and intellect Libra is an air sign, concerned with peace, diplomacy and like all air signs: ideas. The 4 of swords is about taking a time out before the fight which is indicated in the 5 of swords, it seeks to find a peaceful resolution. I recall someone once describing Libra as an “Iron fist in a velvet glove”. So perhaps this tarot card is the gathering of strength, the rest before the action, as you can see 3 swords are above the sleeping man and one is just below him, easy to grasp in a moment’s notice. While Libra may seem passive one must not forget they are a cardinal sign like Aries, Cancer and Capricorn so they do direct their energy outward. I also believe this card relates to Jupiter in the sense that Jupiter is sometimes the bragger yes someone that talks excessively (Jupiter in the 3rd house or Jupiter on Mercury) but sometimes Jupiter is an inner knowing an inner expansion and inner peace and that is reflected in this card.

I hope Jupiter’s visit to Libra brings you the improved relationships you seek. If nothing else maybe we will be inclined to see the very best in others xoxo

WHOA Uranus Square Mercury Transit “Don’t come for me unless I send for you”

Published July 12, 2016 by starsmoonandsun

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That’s the catch phrase of this transit

“Don’t come for me unless I send for you”

It just started; Uranus just became exact to my Mercury today and dear god if I didn’t take shit before I certainly will not take any now.  Combine this with a Pluto opposite Sun square Moon transit all exact at the same time God help me

I am naturally aggressive in speech- Mars –God of War-is in my 3rd house of communication but this is on a whole other level

Uranus Rules

  • Flashes of insight
  • The unexpected
  • Erratic behavior
  • Rebellion
  • Shock
  • Separation

 

Mercury Rules

  • Communication
  • Intellect
  • Speaking
  • Writing

 

 

This is not the time for YOU to assert your knowledge onto me

This is not the time for you to be a know it all

This is not the time for you to tell me how to think, feel, and behave

This is not the time for you to speak upon shit you have never lived

This is not the time to mentally spar with me, challenge me or assert your will onto me

This is not the time to concentrate or sleep

 

This apparently is the time for me to cut people off

This is the time I will tell you anything I have thought that I have been holding in

This is the time for me to see words fly out of my mouth the moment I think them

This is the time I will liberate myself from outworn thoughts and ideologies

This is the time for me to expand myself intellectually

This is a time to be in tuned to my intuition and the messages I receive from the universe

 

So Far today (and it’s still early)

I blocked several people on social media that demanded I share with them information right then and there with no respect to my time and no gratitude for the knowledge I freely provide

I told someone that talks (mercury) to this narcissistic piece of shit I dated that if he speaks (mercury) to him he can no longer speak to me.  Uranus rules separation and breaks I know this is juvenile but if you never dated a narcissist take the time to THOROUGHLY educate yourself or be quiet thank you very much

I know someone that several people had a fall out with and BAM like a huge lightning bolt I can finally see why. It remains to be seen if I will sever that connection

Someone wanted me to do extra work and I have been doing it but really I haven’t wanted to so I freed myself from that tedious obligation

I am open to the possibilities knowing anything that is removed from me is no longer a vibrational match to me

As far as me flying off the handle verbally I will leave you with some funny ecards

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The Natal Moon in the 1st House Emotional Spectrum

Published July 8, 2016 by starsmoonandsun

When the moon transits my 1st house I always know, I become very emotional, perhaps take things personally or experience and influx of endless emotions in a short period of time.

The first house is you, the way you appear, your physical constitution. This year I have the Solar Return moon conjunct my Solar Return Ascendant this means for an entire year I will have the energy of the moon-fluctuations, mood changes, and emotional needs in my 1st house I am waiting to see how this goes.

I know several people that have the natal moon in the 1st house that take a lot of things personally the 1st house is YOU and the moon rules your feelings so perceived slights can be emotionally exaggerated. These individuals are highly sensitive and are emotionally very reactive. This is the placement of taking things personal. Once you learn nothing in life is personal you will breathe a sigh of relief. Everyone is only operating from their own level of consciousness and some people are deeply asleep.

Having the moon in the first house of the natal chart often indicates a few things:

  • your appearance will go through many changes, where ever the moon is placed in your natal chart you will experience ups and downs,
  • you wear your emotions on your sleeve so the responses to people, places and things are very emotional. You cannot really mask your feelings when the natal moon is in the 1st house they are simply out there for the world to see.
  • Often when the moon is in the 1st house or the ruler of the 4th house is in the 1st the individual has a strong tie-for better or worse to the mother.

 

According to Donna Cunningham ” The Moon in Your Life Being A Lunar Type in a Solar World”:

“The moons meanings dominate your face to the world starting with the powerful impact your mother had in shaping your interactions with the worlds you may even look a lot like her so you may be either intensely maternal or intensely dependent but the world at large confuses you with mom no one around you could miss knowing how you feel”

I think those individuals with the moon in the 1st house need to learn to not take everything so personally. That being offended is an ego issue. If you own who you are and know who you are what others say should not and can’t not offend you. I know some people are ignorant and it can be very frustrating but a person being ignorant or rude is no reflection on you. So stop allowing other people and circumstances to alter the way that you feel.

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you will know I recently have dealt with someone that has Narcissistic Personality Disorder before I could grasp the totality of this disorder I simply saw him as a person that has this ongoing spectrum of emotional ups and  downs (more downs never really up). That even with me being a Cancer found quite difficult to grasp, his natal Moon is in the 1st house. Anyone that has dealt with a true Narcissist knows they have fragile egos and are prone to narcissistic injury when they believe someone has offended them.

This site is great for insight on Narcissistic Personality Disorder:

http://www.halcyon.com/jmashmun/npd/index.html

Any perceived slight results in anger and it is nearly impossible to get them to detach from the rage or emotional feeling of being a perpetual victim. This gentleman’s appearance fluctuates from very skinny to the size of the hulk, I do believe he unconsciously has a strong identification with his mother, her sun and moon both conjunct his and her Venus conjoins his mars. And his moods are often in this rapid state of upheaval.

DISCLAIMER

THIS IS NOT TO SAY THAT EVERYONE THAT HAS MOON IN THE 1ST HOUSE SUFFERS FROM A PERSONALITY DISORDER I KNOW 3 PEOPLE WITH THIS PLACEMENT THAT DO NOT HAVE ANY DISORDERS. ASTROLOGY IS NOT ONE STOP SHOPPING. ALSO I AM NOT A MEDICAL ASTROLOGER I AM SIMPLY STATING MY OBSERVATIONS

 

First house moons like Aries (Aries rules the 1st house in astrology) moons can be emotionally aggressive and reactive. They or shall I saw we (I have an Aries moon) are emotionally the babies of the zodiac. While the rest of us may be evolved the feeling part of us often is not. Some one once told me I had the mind and soul of someone that lived 100 lifetimes but the emotions of a teenager. It has been said that Aries Moons or 1st house moons have needs that went unmet in childhood so as adults we respond like everything is an emergency. Me Me Me is an Aries moon mantra LOL

It is said people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder have the emotional intelligence of a toddler. I began to think of moon in the 1st house or all astrology aspects perhaps as a spectrum with the lighter end of moon in the 1st or moon in Aries being lightly selfish, impatient, easily offended and on the darker end completely unaware, lacking complete emotional intelligence and consumed with themselves and needing constant positive reinforcement at the narcissist spectrum.

If you would like to read about how to NOT raise a narcissist or more on understanding Narcissistic Personality Disorder and how it was developed from childhood I recently read this book and recommend it.

object of my affection is in my reflection

While I maintain you cannot have them in your life you may be able to meet them in your mind with compassion after reading. They simply can not control their behavior, if they could it wouldn’t be a pathological (compulsive) disorder (state of confusion)

While doing my research on narcissism I looked at the chart of Sam Vaknin self proclaimed narcissist and author of “Malignant Self Love: Narcissism Revisited” and if his birth time is indeed accurate he has the moon sitting right on his ascendant.

Picture courtesy of astrotheme.com

 

Sam Vaknin Natal Chart

I began to wonder if Moon in the 1st house for some is a mere crying out to be validated and acknowledged but for those that cannot bear the thought of rejection, they have shut off their humanity like Damon in an episode of the Vampire Diaries to feel everything was simply too much to bear.  Especially when they had caretakers that never acknowledged their needs in the developmental stages of life. So they have covered up/denied/rejected all feelings of neediness and shame thus replacing them with rage.
For non disordered people I want to stress that you not give away your power. Don’t give anyone the power to influence your emotions and how you feel. It has taken me 100 years to realize if you give them the power to make you happy and fill you up, you also give them the power to make you sad and empty.

And for those struggling with mental illness and seeking help there are resources out there for you. If you are depressed the Suicide Hotline is 800-273-TALK and if you need help with your mental health call 877-SAMHSA7

People love you and want to see you well.

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