The 7th house cusp and my search for true love

Last night I browsed through an Astrology book that was written in the 1960’s I read a line that I have read countless times in dozens of books: The ruler of the 7th placed in the 5th indicates marrying for true love not other worldly reasons.

F%#k Really! Sure as a society we like to subscribe to the notion that everyone marries for true love, the glass slipper, the run through the forest the sudden trip on a red robe bumping your head on a log, fall asleep for 20 years and awaken via a kiss by one of the 7 dwarfs as several blue birds swirl around your perfectly quaffed hair. Ah and presto you take off on a magic carpet & you have found true love. I don’t think many people marry for “true love” scratch that I know they don’t, they tell me! I’m the keeper of a billion secrets. Yes they are comfortable and happy to have met a man that offers them financial security or a woman that stays in line and doesn’t spend too much money or ask for too much. The truth is on the route to find true love most people abandon their mission and settle! They pick the person they can live with, or maybe the ruler of their 7th is placed in their 11th house and they marry a friend? Or the ruler of the 7th house is placed in their 4th house and they marry someone that fits in with their family. But me nope I see no giving up because the ruler of my 7th is placed in the 5th house.

I can’t count how many times people have yelled at me “just stay with him” “pick one” “you don’t get it all” The thought is suffocating to me, I mean you still have to have sex with the man that is paying your way. I find no joy in high-class prostitution. Occasionally I blurt out do you do it reverse cowgirl every time? How can you stand to spend the rest of your life with someone that isn’t your true love?

Wasn’t it the Eagles that sang: A big old house gets lonely every form of refuge has its price

I secretly believe in magic! I want to cry when I hear Taylor Swifts Lyrics: “I’m not a princess this ain’t a fairytale”. Wait! What! It isn’t?

The 1st house in astrology represents you, the way you look and present yourself. The 1st house is your rising or ascending sign, for me that is Aquarius; I appear friendly, eccentric, progressive etc. Directly across from the 1st house is your opposing sign on the 7th house cusp. For me that is Leo; proud, regal, showy and limelight loving. The 7th house represents what you seek in a partner, it is said to be what you lack and hope to find in another. While I have a lot of Leo traits with Sun in the 5th house,Im out spoken attention seeking, but I often seek someone that is grander, brighter and yes louder then I’m. For as far back as I can remember I loved the energy of a Leo, I always seek a partner in which I think of them as being someone. Not necessarily a celebrity but someone I can adore and be proud of. Women often tell me: Marry someone who loves you more then you love them. Oh no! That seems so empty though I’m well aware the balance in love is rarely if ever even.

So with Leo on the 7th house cusp and the Sun ruling Leo and my Sun being placed in my 5th house of romance and children…a house ruled by Leo naturally, I have no choice but to seek a marriage in which I find true love. After all Leo does rule the heart A sun placed in the 5th house wants to express themselves creatively in love.  I want to feel inspired to write, I can often be quoted as saying I want to dance with someone when we are 60. I want to sing to my love in the morning and romance cannot be merely in the beginning it has to be always.

What planet rules your 7th house and who are you married too?

An interesting read on the ruler of the houses in the houses






  1. Hi I just stumbled upon your wonderful site. Thanks. I have leo rising. 3rd décan. 23d Leo. Depends on the house system you use. One astrologer I did my chart with used Plotemic house system and it gives me my trellium in virgo in the first house. My seventh has Saturn in Aquarius at 29d but my Uranus is either in my first or second again depending on the house system used. I still have not met the right person and not married yet. I do want to meet the right person.

  2. well if you have Leo in 7th house…. the ruler of 7th house is in 5th house… Then that’s mean you will have to find him in Las Vegas, Gambling place or at entertainment or creative event.

  3. I have this placement also! Just wondered have you ever met anyone in a creative setting? Because when I have (whether its a bar or something related to my hobbies) I have met people that had those Leo qualities. Sun in 5th also- in Cancer.

  4. thank you for the post ,it was like reading my own chart!I have Aqua rising hence I understand how it feels, my sun is in virgo.8th.

  5. I would just look at sag on the 7th Jupiter in the 4th = marrying someone to have a family with marrying someone that fits in with your family… I would not consider the sign at all

  6. Hey, great article ! This article really helps me to understand my 7th house, especially I have no planet in my 7th house except north node in Sagittarius. By the way, I found something that make me confused. Sagittarius rules my 7th house, and Jupiter ruling Sag and Jupiter being placed in 4th house. But I have Jupiter in Libra and Libra being placed in 5th house. So, which kind of love I’m searching for ? 4th house type or 5th ? And I’ve read random article, it said if someone has no planet in 7th house, find ruler planet of 7th house and see what sign is in that planet (e.g mine is Sag, Jup rules Sag and my Jup is in Libra). I’m so grateful if you explain it for me.
    Thank you so much ^^

  7. I also believe in magic & would only marry for love. I too cannot imagine living with someone that I don’t love. That would be torture! My venus conjunct Jupiter are both in the 7th house in Taurus. Taurus Sun in 8th house, and Moon conjunct Libra in 12th house.

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