The Moon in the Natal Chart is associated with our needs, our ancestry, our desire for security, our instinctual responses and how we express ourselves emotionally. No matter the sign the Moon is placed in or the aspects it makes- if it is dignified or challenged it still represents our emotional landscape. In synastry which is essentially the comparison of two charts to see how two individuals impact and interact with one another; aspects to the Moon in one Birth Chart from the planets in another person’s Birth Chart can show how the latter may impact the Moon person emotionally; as well as how they relate to one another on an emotional level.

The nature of Uranus in Astrology is disruption, freedom, rebellion, and upheaval. Uranus is known as The Great Awakener in Astrology it is a planet that seeks to shock, enlighten, innovate, and change whatever it touches.

We can already see how the meeting of these two planets can be quite a challenge. The very nature of these planets are at odds with one another. The Moon seeks security, it governs our home life, how we nurture ourselves and others, it is how we seek comfort and it governs our home base; the Moon is our inner most world when it is touched by Uranus particularly in hard aspect we find an array of difficulties that are not easily overcome.

When I am initially meeting a couple or a person to discuss synastry, one of the first things I look for is Moon square Uranus or Moon opposite Uranus; these are in my top 5 least favorite aspects in synastry.

When a person’s Moon is apected in square or opposition by another’s Uranus we often have inconsistency, this can be my long distance, or off and on-again relationship aspect.

If you have this with your partner, it is essential to ask yourself, can this connection be grounded? Can it be consistent? Can that other person show up in a dependable and reliable manner? And if not, you have to strongly consider if this is something you can live with.

Remember: synastry acts like a permanent transit

It is important to understand that synastry is permanent – it acts like a permanent transit so if you are in a relationship with someone you will feel this energy always. Perhaps you can attempt to work with it, but it is still ever present, and it is one of those aspects where you really have to ask yourself, does this work for me on an emotional level?

When a person’s Uranus (this can be a parent, friend, lover, or partner) meets the Moon of another in synastry the Uranus person cannot relate to the Moon person emotionally. Often these two are very different in some regard, they likely have different backgrounds and contrasting childhood experiences. With Uranus being the planet of instability when it meets with the Moon in another’s chart the Moon person may quickly realize the Uranus person cannot be relied upon emotionally. Often in these connections the Uranus person will pull away every time the Moon person gets close. The Uranus person may not want to be bogged down emotionally and will likely avoid any emotional dependency from the Moon person; resulting in the Moon person feeling emotionally ignored or invalidated. This aspect via square and opposition can be very emotionally disturbing for the Moon person it may provoke feelings of anger or sadness. Often the Uranus person is not someone you can rely on emotionally. Did I say that already? It is important to understand this.

Uranus opposite or square Moon in Synastry can speak of emotional upsets as well as an emotional disconnection. I recall I had a client that was married for two decades to someone with the square, and I said I was surprised, and she stated they always lived separate lives. I have another client that has been married for a long time with the opposition and her husband travels 200 days of the year. Remember the Moon is associated with our home and Uranus rules change and disruption so here we find a person not continuously home.

If you have this in synastry you need to be honest with yourself particularly as the Moon person and ask is this something I can live with? If you are in a relationship and it is hot and cold, you need to ask yourself, is this really a person I can set up a life with?

In pop culture I often use this example when discussing this aspect, I call it my “Justin Bieber Selena Gomez aspect;” they had the square Justins Uranus in Capricorn squares off with her Moon in Aries. Selena Gomez recently described being emotionally abused by Justin during there on again off again relationship.

In Justin Biebers Natal Chart he himself has Uranus square Moon this can be reflected in his own on again off again estranged relationship with his own Mother. This is a person that may be emotionally erratic or disconnected.

We know Justin went on to marry Hailey Bieber whom in her own Natal Chart has Uranus square Moon she recently gave an interview and said, “I’m not super close with my family at this point in my life because I’m very independent.”

Hailey and Justin both have this in the Natal Chart, and they also have it with one another in synastry his Uranus squares her Moon. (Selena has it Natal but with a 10-degree orb personally I would discount it)

Whatever my personal opinion is on the longevity or compatibility of this couple I wanted to illustrate the point that Uranus square or Opposite Moon in synastry works best for those that already have the aspect in their own natal chart. This is a person that does not seek emotional closeness, may be quite independent and prone to quick changes in feelings. A person that does not have this aspect in the Natal Chart may be experienced as needy to the person that has Uranus in hard aspect to the Moon in their own chart.

Remember if a person calls you needy, they are essentially telling you they do not have the ability to meet your needs.

I always think it is interesting to watch someone have a toxic or erratic connection with one person but then go off and have a completely seemingly normal connection with someone else. That is because the other person may not view or experience the person’s behavior as upsetting or unbearable depending on how they themselves process things emotionally.

Uranus Conjunct Moon in Synastry

The conjunction is easier than the Square or Opposition these two energies can be infused with one another without the disconnect/reconnect/disconnect that comes with the square or opposition. This relationship is likely exciting and unconventional but in a way that works for both parties. The Moon person likely feels an immediate electrifying energy from the Uranus person. The Uranus person likely introduces the Moon person to new concepts and may be very unique and interesting to the Moon person.

Uranus sextile or trine Moon in Synastry

A trine or sextile aspect often represents growth, opportunities, and gifts; here the energy is not overwhelming like it is with the square and opposition. These aspects are lively, interesting, and exciting without disruption. The two individuals likely support one another emotionally and understand one another’s more unconventional sides. You really get one another and may even introduce each other to new scientific, spiritual, or astrological concepts.

Pro Tips:

Always consider each individuals Natal Chart prior to looking at the synastry

Remember the entire chart must always be considered